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What’s New in Metastatic Breast Cancer Treatment

Advancements in Metastatic Breast Cancer Treatment & What They Mean for You

Abigail Johnston, 38, was a successful lawyer and mother of two young children, living a fulfilling life before being diagnosed with stage 4 metastatic breast cancer in 2017. Her diagnosis, with a prognosis of just 12 to 36 months, was devastating, but she chose to take an aggressive approach to treatment.

Abigail shares the emotional toll of her diagnosis, how she focused on being present with her family by closing down her law practice, and then highlights the power of how understanding more about her disease would change her life, specifically in understanding her cancer biomarkers.

As she reflects on the incredible advancements in metastatic breast cancer treatments and the hope she holds for long-term survival, she brings in another top expert voice, breast cancer specialist, Dr. Neil Vasan from Columbia University, to discuss the latest updates from the largest breast cancer meeting in the world, San Antonio Breast Cancer Symposium.

They talk about the most promising treatments that may be close to FDA approval, how getting tests to understand your disease can completely change your life, and even how the weight loss drugs like GLP-1s have entered the conversation in breast cancer.


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Edited by: Katrina Villareal & Stephanie Chuang


Some live for 15, 20, and even 25 years with stage 4 metastatic breast cancer.

Introduction

Abigail Johnston: I have been living with stage 4 metastatic breast cancer. At the age of 38, I was told I had 12 to 36 months to live. As a young person in the middle of my career with two young children, hearing that was devastating and overwhelming.

I chose to be more aggressive and have my treatments happen in a certain way because I’m always thinking of being present with them. I closed my law practice about a week after my diagnosis because if I was going to have limited time, I wanted to spend all that time possible with my kids and not in the office. I count those times with my kids and my husband as so much more valuable.

Some live for 15, 20, and even 25 years with stage 4 metastatic breast cancer. We need to understand why they live for a very long time. Is it a particular medicine? Is it a particular biomarker? Is it something about their genetics? That’s where precision medicine comes in.

Abigail Johnston
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Dr. Neil Vasan

Dr. Neil Vasan: Breast cancer is multiple diseases. It can be estrogen receptor-positive, triple-negative, and HER2-positive. This discussion is for women and patients with metastatic breast cancer, but of course, we have a lot of advancements happening in the curative breast cancer setting.

We think about screening and genetic mutations, and the advances there, which straddle all types of breast cancer. Especially for this audience, three important trials were either initially presented or updates were presented at the 2024 San Antonio Breast Cancer Symposium.

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Editor’s Note: Clinical trials can seem complicated or technical, but there are later-stage trials that may be a great option for patients, not a “last resort.” See our video/article focused on “What is a Clinical Trial?”

According to the National Cancer Institute: “Clinical trials test new ways to find, prevent, and treat cancer. They also help doctors improve the quality of life for people with cancer by testing ways to manage the side effects of cancer and its treatment.”

For a lot of metastatic trials in the past, we have used tissue biopsy, which is obviously more invasive and takes time to analyze. This trial utilized liquid biopsies in approximately 93% of patients, which was remarkably high. It also enabled this trial to report results quickly.

Dr. Vasan

INAVO120 Clinical Trial

Dr. Vasan: The first clinical trial is INAVO120, which is a trial testing PI3 kinase inhibitors in the first-line setting in women who have progressed on adjuvant endocrine therapy. Thankfully, this is very rare, but we do see it. We do know that there are women who only get one or two years of mileage out of these therapies. Sometimes, these therapies can just stop working. This is a hard discussion with patients because the therapies that we think are supposed to cure you didn’t work.

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This was a trial that looked at a type of drug that we give in the later line setting of breast cancer. This is called a PI3 kinase inhibitor. This is based on the fact that 40% of breast cancers have mutations in PIK3CA, which is the main engine of this pathway.

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What was interesting about this trial was that they investigated this drug in combination with palbociclib, a CDK4 and CDK6 inhibitor, and fulvestrant in women who had either progressed on adjuvant endocrine therapy or progressed one year with infection. This patient population has very resistant disease.

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There are a couple of interesting things about this trial. When this trial was initially reported, it doubled progression-free survival. Very recently, we had a press release stating that it improved overall survival. We don’t yet know the numbers for the overall survival improvement, but this is a significant achievement in the field. It’s the first time for a PI3 kinase pathway inhibitor to have improved overall survival in metastatic breast cancer, so that is a huge deal.

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We’ve had drugs like everolimus that have targeted this pathway for decades, but we’re only now starting to see the fruits of that. The reason why overall survival has improved is because of a combination of factors. First of all, we’re using this drug in the first-line setting, so we’re putting all the weapons in one go in trying to eradicate breast cancer.

Second, we, as a field, have made a lot of progress in monitoring toxicities and making sure that these therapies have manageable toxicities. That was another important part of this trial. It was a drug that’s better tolerated than alpelisib, which is FDA-approved.

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Lastly, this trial enrolled quite quickly because it used liquid biopsies. For a lot of metastatic trials in the past, we have used tissue biopsy, which is obviously more invasive and takes time to analyze. This trial utilized liquid biopsies in approximately 93% of patients, which was remarkably high. It also enabled this trial to report results quickly.

Some of the things I’ve mentioned have to do with the science, but some of them have to do with implementation issues and toxicities, which are science as well, but in a different way. All of these variables matter. This trial is practice-changing and I’m looking forward to hearing about the overall survival data.

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Editor’s Note: This interview has been edited for clarity and length. This is not medical advice. Please consult with your healthcare provider to make treatment decisions.

EMBER-3 Clinical Trial

Dr. Vasan: The second trial was looking at a drug called an oral selective estrogen receptor degrader (SERD). The EMBER-3 trial was investigating a drug called imlunestrant, which is sort of an oral version of fulvestrant that degrades the estrogen receptor. There’s already an FDA-approved drug called elacestrant, which is for women whose breast cancers have mutations in the estrogen receptor or in a gene called ESR1.

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We see these mutations in about 15 to 20% of patients. I would say that number is a little bit all over the place if you look at the literature. We know that this mutation arises because it is a drug-resistant mutation to aromatase inhibitors. Women whose breast cancers progressed on adjuvant aromatase inhibitors often can get this mutation.

Imlunestrant was tested in combination with abemaciclib or a CDK4/6 inhibitor. This was a trial that looked at a complicated trial, but the gist is that in women whose breast cancers harbored an ESR1 mutation, those women had a longer progression-free survival if they took imlunestrant versus an endocrine therapy of their physician’s choice, which might be fulvestrant or an aromatase inhibitor monotherapy.

There were other more complicated arms of the trial where they looked at the combination of imlunestrant and abemaciclib in patients who had progressed on CDK4/6 inhibitors in the second line. Those resulted in positive data. They had improved progression-free survival. I’m not going to delve into the details of that because, honestly — and I say this as a breast oncologist — it’s challenging to understand exactly. The comparator arms were not necessarily what we would use in the second-line setting.

For any average patient in the second-line setting, we would obtain their genomics, figure out the exact targeted therapy, and then give them that therapy. This trial did not test that particular question. It showed that this combination has efficacy, but it’s hard to understand who the right patient population is. I look forward to seeing how the FDA weighs in on the combination. I anticipate that imlunestrant as a monotherapy is going to be a drug that we see being approved.

I was impressed by the imlunestrant side effect data. If this drug gets approved, I think it will be the preferred drug compared to elacestrant. The reason I say that is not because of the efficacy data, because the efficacy was pretty similar across both trials. It’s more because of the toxicities.

Elacestrant is a drug we give in the clinic. The nausea is very real for these patients. Imlunestrant looks like a cleaner drug. That being said, with all of these drugs, we don’t know how they work until they get deployed in the real world. That’s where a lot of you are very helpful. You can raise awareness for certain types of side effects that we either know about or may not get a lot of publicity, but then in later years, we find out that it’s a big deal.

An example of that side effect is inflammation of the lungs from CDK4/6 inhibitors. That was something that didn’t bear out in the phase 3 clinical trials, but it was patient advocates who noticed these side effects. Oncologists noticed these side effects in small numbers. The FDA did a big analysis where they pooled all of this data together and found out that this was actually a safety signal. This is where you all can be very helpful, as these drugs get newly launched into the real world to help us figure out the toxicities.

PATINA Clinical Trial

Dr. Vasan: The third trial is PATINA, which is an exciting trial and speaks to the fast-moving pace of this field. This hasn’t been published yet, but it is amazing and groundbreaking. The science is one part of it, but the dissemination of the information is another very important part.

Again, this is where patients can advocate. You want these data as soon as possible. Oncologists have already started to implement these results into clinical practice before the paper has been published.

This trial looked at women with HER2-positive metastatic breast cancer who are also ER-positive. HER2-positive breast cancer comprises about 20% of breast cancer and about 70 to 80% of that 20% is estrogen receptor-positive. We sometimes call this triple positive. Generally, we treat these cancers as we treat the HER2 component and then we tack on hormonal therapies in the adjuvant setting and metastatic setting as well.

This trial investigated the addition of CDK4/6 inhibitors, which we know improve overall survival in estrogen receptor-positive, HER2-negative metastatic breast cancer. What about testing it in estrogen receptor-positive, HER2-positive metastatic breast cancer?

It’s a little more complicated because the therapy is a combination of chemotherapy (paclitaxel or docetaxel) with anti-HER2 antibodies trastuzumab and pertuzumab. This is the THP regimen, which is the CLEOPATRA trial. It has been our standard of care for many years now and improves overall survival. It’s the best combination we have in this disease.

They gave the THP therapy. Normally, we give chemotherapy for six cycles, stop chemotherapy, and then patients will be on just trastuzumab and pertuzumab. That’s a great moment in any patient’s disease trajectory and treatment trajectory because once they’re off chemo, the HP (trastuzumab and pertuzumab) has very very few to no side effects.

Patients tell me it’s like getting water. Again, not to minimize anyone who’s had side effects from these drugs, but in large populations, they’re very well tolerated. At that point where we would normally drop the chemo, we would oftentimes add hormone therapy in these patients who are ER-positive, so also adding a CDK4/6 inhibitor, adding palbociclib.

They found that when they did that versus without adding palbociclib, the progression-free survival improvement was gigantic. It went from 29 months to 44 months. One chestnut about this data, if anything, that makes this underappreciated or underrated is the delta or the change between the therapy arms.

You want a big delta. That shows your therapy works. The delta of 12 months is higher than the delta in progression-free survival in ER-positive metastatic breast cancer, meaning that the addition of the CDK4/6 inhibitor is, by these data, maybe even doing more than what we thought it was doing in ER-positive, HER2-negative breast cancer, where CDK4/6 inhibitors transform the landscape.

This is exciting from a therapy point of view. I hope with all my heart that this results in an overall survival improvement. We still need to see, but this is exciting. I think the data blew everyone out of the water. When the progression-free survival curves were shown, there were audible gasps in the audience. We don’t get moments like that a lot and that’s wonderful, so I’m excited about this data.

Taking a big step back, the way that they conducted this trial was interesting because there are other targeted therapies that we use in ER-positive breast cancer, like Akt inhibitors and PI3 kinase inhibitors. PIK3CA is mutated in HER2-positive breast cancer in about 40% of women. Unfortunately, we already know that the antibodies don’t do very well in PIK3CA mutant cancers; antibody-drug conjugates (ADCs) seem to do better.

This is an interesting area to start putting in some of these targeted therapies that we only give in ER-positive breast cancer into the ER-positive, HER2-positive space. We’re going to see a lot more trials doing this paradigm.

That’s something for patients who may have ER-positive, HER2-positive metastatic breast cancer. This is going to be a very fast-moving area. We’re going to see a lot of trials by many companies and even cooperative groups combining all of these therapies.

There’s still a lot of complexity because you could imagine, this is now going from three drugs to four or five drugs. We have to think about toxicity, but this is incredible data. I was floored when I saw this because I was not expecting it as well. Again, that’s wonderful for all of you.

That’s an interesting example where these important questions that you raise, Abigail, form the hypotheses for clinical trials that are tested rigorously and prospectively, which can help change or guide future treatments.

Abigail: In that context, we know this information, but nothing’s been published yet. Is that correct?

Dr. Vasan: Nothing’s been published yet. Many of us have already started to change our recommendations based on this. Of course, this is a conversation with patients. We have an initial glimpse into the data, but we don’t have all the answers right now. This is such an amazing improvement. We hope that insurance companies and oncologists will advocate for you to try to get this and work their hardest to get this drug if this applies to you. Again, this speaks to the fast-moving nature of this field and how it’s so imperative that we get these results out as soon as we can for everyone.

Abigail: We talk about lines of treatment and how, with each line of treatment, usually you can’t go back once you’ve been on a line of treatment. When we talk about these combinations, is there a concern that we’re potentially taking up two lines of treatment in these triplets? What are your thoughts on that?

Dr. Vasan: Our thoughts on that have evolved. There were discussions five years ago about whether patients whose disease progresses after a CDK4/6 inhibitor in the first-line setting should switch to two different therapies, or if we should keep the CDK4/6 on and change the endocrine therapy, or vice versa. These are studies that have been reported.

We know now that switching the CDK4/6 inhibitor in the second line in large populations of women improves progression-free survival. That’s an interesting example where these important questions that you raise, Abigail, form the hypotheses for clinical trials that are tested rigorously and prospectively, which can help change or guide future treatments.

I do think it’s an important question. With INAVO120, this triplet regimen, you’re using three good drugs all in the beginning. There’s clearly going to be more toxicity, which is also something that has to be dealt with. But is that the best thing to do for these patients? I would argue that the overall survival is positive. We don’t know what the numbers are yet, but that’s a great sign and rationale for why you would want to give all of those drugs.

These are the academic discussions we have as oncologists and with patients as well. Sometimes, there are discussions about adjuvant CDK4/6 inhibitors. We know that these drugs improve disease-free survival. They prevent breast cancer from coming back, but we don’t know if they improve overall survival. They may, but it’s possible that they may not. The trials were not necessarily powered to answer that question. They were smaller trials, so we don’t know.

Should we offer this drug or give this drug? Offering versus giving in shared decision-making are two different issues. Should we be offering this drug to all women who meet these criteria? We don’t know if it helps them live longer. These are questions that we wrestle with every day.

For this triplet therapy, the fact that it improves overall survival is a great win for patients. It’s a complex decision because it adds more side effects in the first-line setting. Normally, patients in the first-line setting are not used to having lots of side effects in general.

Abigail: Thank you for that overview. It can be a little complicated for patients to look at these statistical analyses and graphs. They’re a little Greek to those of us who don’t have that background, so it’s always good to have a doctor interpret. It’s also important to see the evolution of science. We know what we know today, but we’re going to know more tomorrow because of clinical trials and ongoing research.

The Impact of Antibody-Drug Conjugates (ADCs)

Abigail: You mentioned ADCs. There were some conversations about antibody-drug conjugates and sequencing.

Dr. Vasan: Antibody-drug conjugates have changed the landscape in the treatment of breast cancer. We now have antibody-drug conjugates that are approved in all three subtypes of breast cancer. For HER2-positive, we have trastuzumab emtansine (TDM1) and trastuzumab deruxtecan (T-DXd). For HER2-positive and triple-negative breast cancer, we have sacituzumab.

For HER2-low, which was triple-negative/ER-positive but HER2-low, we have trastuzumab deruxtecan (T-DXd). For ER-positive metastatic breast cancer, we have sacituzumab and datopotamab deruxtecan (Dato-DXd), which is like sacituzumab, a similar target in ER-positive metastatic breast cancer.

In my opinion, it’s always good to have options on the table. I applaud the FDA. As an oncologist, given the data that that’s been shown so far, it’s hard for me to imagine for estrogen receptor-positive metastatic breast cancer recommending Dato-DXd over sacituzumab. This is my opinion, but it is an option, and it may be the best option for you.

It will be interesting to see how it’s progressed in other breast cancer subtypes and triple-negative breast cancer. It’s being investigated in lung cancer as well. ADCs are here to stay. They’ve changed how we think about drugs and targets. I think about it like next-generation chemotherapy, which is how I communicate it with patients as well.

From my point of view, it’s a helpful metaphor for a couple of reasons. These drugs have side effects that are more similar to chemotherapy. I would argue they’re more muted but similar. And they’re similar in genre. They can cause hair loss, diarrhea, and neuropathy, which are side effects we associate with chemotherapy. Generally, they’re less than what we see with chemotherapy. These drugs are also given in cycles, the same lingo and parlance as chemotherapy. For that purpose, it’s a helpful metaphor.

In the trials testing these drugs, they’re always comparing them to chemotherapy of the physician’s choice. It’s always a head-to-head versus chemo. We’re now seeing T-DXd moving earlier into the neoadjuvant setting and in the ER-positive metastatic breast cancer space. There was an approval for HER2 ultra-low, but it’s moving up.

It’s very likely that soon, with the INAVO120 regimen, if it stops working for those patients, we may be talking about ADCs even in the second-line. These would be patients who are fit and able to tolerate these therapies. That’s a different discussion, but I think that’s where the puck is heading, into the second line. It’s going to be an option. Maybe not for everyone, but it will be an option.

ADCs are changing the game because they’re changing the way we think about toxicity and efficacy, and they’re moving up. More options are always better for patients, but it’s going to be a complicated landscape.

Improving How to Get Medicine to People

Abigail: You’ve talked about toxicities, which is mostly in the context of side effects. What about time toxicity? How do you talk about that with your patients? For example, the difference between taking an oral therapy at home versus going to the infusion center every three weeks for an ADC.

Dr. Vasan: In the HER2-positive metastatic breast cancer space, there has been a lot of emphasis and research on subcutaneous formulations. PHESGO (pertuzumab, trastuzumab, and hyaluronidase-zzxf ) is the drug I’m thinking of, which is given in a shot in the fat. Biosimilars are also a relevant part of the conversation because of cost.

Most of the time, the trastuzumab and pertuzumab that we’re giving in big academic centers are biosimilars now because they’re generic drugs, cheaper, and better for the system. But I do think that this emphasis on the drug getting approved and becoming generic, but with a new formulation, is a very relevant conversation.

This is where your input is very helpful as patients and patient advocates. There may be a world in the distant future where patients, even with metastatic disease, might be taking these drugs at home. I do think that’s a possibility. During the COVID pandemic, when coming into the infusion center was risky for so many patients, those were options that were deployed in trials or feasibility studies. We know it’s possible, feasible, and safe.

Again, this is an area where the puck is moving. Can we come up with better models of getting drugs to patients? The concept of coming in every three weeks versus taking a drug every day have pros and cons. Obviously, a pro about taking an oral pill is that it’s in your control as a patient. You’re taking the medication. It doesn’t necessarily mean that the drug is less toxic. I would argue we have plenty of oral drugs that are more toxic than certain IV chemotherapies. It’s apples versus oranges.

This is where oral SERDs are interesting drugs. We give fulvestrant. Many patients tell us that no one wants to get shots in the buttocks every month. Interestingly, oral SERDs have come along. We thought as a field that oral SERDs were going to replace fulvestrant, but that’s not what we’re seeing because they only seem to have activity in patients whose breast cancers have ESR1 mutations, which is a small piece of the pie.

With every conversation around changing formulations, you have to reinvestigate these questions because some of our assumptions turn out to be wrong. This is an important change in the field. I would even go a step further. Breast cancer has led this in oncology because now we’re starting to see subcutaneous formulations of other antibodies.

These are the things where patients need to be savvy and know everything about what’s going on. If that’s something that gives you solace and lessens your anxiety, these are questions to ask your oncologist. What are the drugs available to me? What are the targeted therapies, antibody-drug conjugates, chemotherapies, antibody therapies, and clinical trials? Which of these drugs are given intravenously? Can we give this in a way that makes more sense for my life? These are all important questions that you should feel empowered to ask because we do have answers.

Abigail: Thank you for bringing up quality of life type discussions and how important it is to have with your doctor.

With obesity, we know that it is a known risk factor for estrogen receptor-positive breast cancer, but less so for other breast cancer subtypes.

Addressing Obesity in the Context of Breast Cancer

Abigail: There was some data that came out at San Antonio about obesity, which is always a sensitive or complicated subject to talk about. How are you having that conversation with your patients, Dr. Vasan?

Dr. Vasan: I’m sure you are aware of the prior Surgeon General’s declaration about multiple cancer types being linked to alcohol intake, and this is important. We’re always interested in trying to find out if there are modifiable risk factors that can decrease the risk of cancer. We know that the warnings on cigarette packs have decreased the rates of lung cancer and the smoking rates are much lower now than they were 20 years ago. But are there other modifiable risk factors that can decrease the risk of breast cancer?

I mentioned obesity in line with alcohol because those two are a little linked. The National Academies of Sciences, Engineering, and Medicine (NASEM) released a concurrent report that argues that if you look at alcohol in the absence of obesity, the risk of breast cancer is a lot lower than we thought. It’s 1% over someone’s lifetime, which is the absolute increase in risk. The relative risk, of course, is higher.

The bottom line is it’s a hard discussion. If there’s a 1% increase in absolute risk, how are you going to decrease that by alcohol cessation, which can be hard and complicated for people? I put that out there.

With obesity, we know that it is a known risk factor for estrogen receptor-positive breast cancer, but less so for other breast cancer subtypes. The way that I talk about it with patients is that this is a modifiable risk factor. If you’re on some sort of active therapy, we’ll put it out on the table and talk about this issue, but we won’t intervene until you’re done with the hardest parts of therapy.

This is something that comes up all the time in the adjuvant setting. It’s natural for women to want to lose weight. You get ambushed with breast cancer, so you want to investigate all the avenues of your life. How can I do better? How can I change things? I always say to patients, “Let’s get through the hardest part. Let’s get through chemotherapy. Let’s get through surgery first. Then, let’s talk about these issues.”

We are starting to see changes in the world of GLP-1s. There’s a lot of interesting work being done looking at these drugs and their anti-cancer effects. These are anti-cancer effects regardless of their effects on diet and weight loss, which is fascinating as well.

This is a fast-moving space. What I recommend to patients is that when we’re talking about weight loss, talk about the real specifics of an exercise regimen and food intake. These are great conversations that are happening in your doctor’s office. This is also something we’re seeing at the national level, even politically. We’re seeing a lot more discussion about lifestyle and changes that can be made.

There’s a lot more awareness now, even in the last couple of years, about what we’re putting into our bodies and our kids’ bodies. The big question is trying to understand if making a change affects your risk of breast cancer. Does that improve your survival with metastatic breast cancer? These are all questions that we’re hoping to find answers to.

They’re very hard studies to design. Certainly, weight loss is going to help anyone, myself included, with all aspects of life: cardiovascular disease, cardiovascular risk factors, etc. But I don’t want someone to become a vegetarian overnight. That’s a pretty drastic change. What’s that going to give you at the end of the day?

These are all important conversations to have, but I do think we’re going to start to see more research done in this area.

Abigail: It’s so important for patients to remember that this isn’t about patient shaming. It isn’t about saying that they’re responsible for anything, but about looking at how to improve the quality of life while reducing risk at the same time. I just wanted to make sure we talked about that.

Editor’s Note: This interview has been edited for clarity and length. This is not medical advice. Please consult with your healthcare provider to make treatment decisions.

The Importance of Understanding Side Effects

Abigail: You were part of a discussion about a case-based clinical approach to ER-positive metastatic breast cancer at one of your presentations in San Antonio. Would you like to talk about that?

Dr. Vasan: ER-positive metastatic breast cancer is a fast-moving field with a lot of new therapies approved within the last two years and with new things in the pipeline. We get into a lot of clinical scenarios. This is very common and happens all the time in the clinic.

Patients who have multiple alterations that we have targetable drugs for, patients who have unusual comorbidities — these are scenarios we see all the time. We’re trying to understand what the best drug is for this patient that will help them live the longest and have the best quality of life. This was a great discussion. It’s wonderful to have a patient advocate on the panel. This is important because a lot of these drugs have side effects that mean different things to different people.

Side effects mean different things to different people. They also mean different things, I would argue, for oncologists compared to patients. The way that we grade and rate side effects can mean a lot of different things. Grade 3 diarrhea is 10 episodes a day, which is insane. Grade 3 is usually the red flag, but grade 1 and grade 2 is still a lot of diarrhea.

Stomatitis is something I think about a lot. It’s a side effect that we’re starting to see more now with Akt inhibitors. There was a reasonable percentage of women who had grade 3 stomatitis, which is inflammation of the mouth. Grade 3 means that stomatitis is so bad that you’re losing weight. Grade 1 means it’s there and grade 2 means it’s painful.

Those are big side effects. You could argue that grade 3 side effect X might be very different from grade 1 side effect Y, if Y is bad. The toxicities and communication of the toxicities are so important to make sure that everyone is on the same page. If you’re having a side effect that you feel is not getting the time that you need to talk about it, you need to talk about it. I always tell my patients, “If something doesn’t feel right, I want to hear from you. I’d rather hear from you than not hear from you.” These are important discussions.

The Importance of Sharing Side Effects with Your Doctor

Abigail: Patients talk about their fear of bringing up a side effect that they’re struggling with because it might mean they can’t stay on the medication. How do you handle that in the clinic?

Dr. Vasan: I always try to make it clear that we have a lot of doses that we can give of drugs. They’re generally for targeted therapies. Patients have multiple options. One of the biggest challenges is trying to communicate that there is no one optimal dose. For whatever reason that we don’t understand, some doses are much better tolerated than others. Certain doses for certain individuals are the perfect range.

It’s very hard to understand and hard to accept. If your doctor recommends a dose reduction, do not equate that with not being as hard enough on yourself or not being as strong. I always tell patients, “I don’t want you to feel the side effects of the therapy. The goal is to see it working on the scans and not have any side effects. That’s not what this is about.”

It’s hard. If I were a patient, I could understand feeling less than if my doctor said I need a lower dose. But I want patients to understand that there’s been so much rigorous analysis of every one of these FDA-approved drugs, looking at lower dose levels, and trying to understand if you are attenuating if you lower the dose. Are you decreasing the benefits of survival, the response rate, etc.? The answer for the vast majority is you’re not, which is so important for patients to understand.

There are a lot of initiatives being done at the American Society of Clinical Oncology (ASCO) level and the Patient-Centered Outcomes Research Institute (PCORI), looking at CDK4/6 inhibitors and changes in doses. Some of these drugs — but not all — are approved in the adjuvant setting. A big reason for that is that some doses were modified, and they used a lower dose in the adjuvant setting.

I want patients to know that doctors are always thinking about this, but that’s a perfect example where it’s baked into how we give the drug. With CDK4/6 inhibitors, we give them three weeks on, one week off. It’s not dose reduction per se — it’s dose intensity — but it’s the same idea. People need to know that if your doctor recommends a lower dose, it’s not because of anything you did or did not do; it’s just because that dose is the right dose for you.

There are a lot of people doing research into pharmacogenomics. There are aspects about different races that may change the way that you metabolize drugs. It’s been known for a very long time that Asians have certain metabolic enzymes that change the way their bodies process capecitabine.

That’s something in the GI (gastrointestinal) cancer field and in certain types of GI cancers, like stomach cancer, that are very prevalent in Asian countries. These are important parts of the conversation. There are biological reasons that we may not know yet that could explain why this dose is not the right dose.

Abigail: Yet another reason why diversity in clinical trials is so important. If we don’t have enough of each group of people, we’re not going to necessarily know if something is specific to that group. Thank you for raising that.

What are You Most Excited About in Breast Cancer Research & Development?

Abigail: What is new and exciting that you’re looking forward to?

Dr. Vasan: I’m very excited about the three trials that I talked about earlier. I think in HER2-positive, T-DXd has already changed the world. There are still many more scenarios that I think T-DXd will find an approved role in. Moving drugs into the neoadjuvant adjuvant setting is always wonderful and I think that’s going to be where that field heads.

The PATINA trial, where we’re starting to integrate targeted therapies into that complicated regimen, is going to be an interesting move that the field heads into.

In estrogen receptor-positive breast cancer, there are still a lot more interesting targets that are being investigated in phase 1 trials. One target I have my eye on is something called KAT6A, an epigenetic target. It’s the idea that your DNA can get modified in lots of different ways. The proteins that modify that DNA are called epigenetic proteins, writers, and erasers. There are lots of different classes and one of those is the protein called KAT6A. It’s going through clinical trials right now. The response rates are very high for patients who have progressed on lots of different therapies. There is also a lot of toxicity, so those will have to be managed.

SABCS 2024 - What's New in Metastatic Breast Cancer Treatment

Mutant-selective PI3 kinase inhibitors are exciting drugs. They seem to have little to no hyperglycemia. They are mutant-selective, so they’re ultra-targeted in a way. They’re only targeting the mutated PI3 kinase in cancer cells and not targeting the normal PI3 kinase in all the other cells in your body, like the liver and fat cells, which can cause all these bad side effects.

Triple-negative breast cancer is still the hardest disease. I do think that some interesting advances are being made in optimizing chemotherapies with immunotherapy. I don’t think we’ve quite cracked that yet. There’s always work being done with BRCA and trying to find the patients who benefit from those therapies.

SABCS 2024 - What's New in Metastatic Breast Cancer Treatment

I think ADCs are going to find a huge traction in TNBC, as they already have. As an example, sacituzumab is a better drug in triple-negative breast cancer than it is in ER-positive breast cancer. There’s still more to be seen there.

I love talking to people who know a lot about breast cancer and people who are outside the field because it’s such a fast-moving field. It’s a privilege to take care of patients who have breast cancer and to be able to talk about all these therapies and communicate. I hope you can tell how excited I am when I talk about this. It’s such an amazing field because everyone is so united and mission-oriented to keep moving faster.

SABCS 2024 - What's New in Metastatic Breast Cancer Treatment

The PIK3CA Pathbreakers Patient Advocacy Group

Abigail: Let’s talk about the patient advocacy group PIK3CA Pathbreakers.

Dr. Vasan: We were inspired by the lung cancer patient advocacy group. There have been targeted therapies for decades now against a slew of genes that are mutated in lung cancer. There have been these incredible groups that have formed around the target. EGFR Resisters is one of them. These amazing groups have changed the world. They have changed patient advocacy. They changed how oncologists think about designing trials. The people in these organizations have seats at the table with pharma companies as they design their trials with regulatory agencies as they’re approving these drugs. It’s incredible.

Breast cancer doesn’t necessarily have a genomically-directed targeted therapy, i.e., a gene that’s mutated that we find on a sequencing report, until PI3 kinase. That’s something that’s lacking in the field.

Abigail and I, together with two other incredible patient advocates, Marlena Murphy, who unfortunately passed away in 2024, and Melanie Sisk, have formed an organization called PIK3CA Pathbreakers. We’re a patient advocacy group formed around patients with PIK3CA-altered breast cancers.

We now have three FDA-approved drugs, two in the last year and a half for this patient population. We’re invested in trying to increase awareness around clinical trials in this space, increase knowledge about side effects through the lens of patients but articulated by oncologists, and try to make sure that we have strategies to mitigate these side effects.

SABCS 2024 - What's New in Metastatic Breast Cancer Treatment

What’s Exciting About Next-Generation Sequencing (NGS)?

Dr. Vasan: The education and landscape around next-generation sequencing have changed dramatically in the last two years. When to get sequencing? What to get sequencing on? How often to get sequencing? These areas are very fast-moving. We’re still trying to make sure that insurance companies are approving these drugs. I do think that these are bigger conversations that we need to have at a national level, but that’s another big area.

SABCS 2024 - What's New in Metastatic Breast Cancer Treatment

What are the mutations? There are thousands of mutations seen in patients. Some are very common, but we get questions all the time about these rare mutations. Do these rare mutations predict response to these drugs? We don’t know.

As an oncologist and someone who specializes in PI3 kinase, I get emails all the time from oncologists all over the country. They see this rare mutation. Does this predict the response for capivasertib? We don’t know.

What are Your Recommended Patient Resources?

Abigail: Thank you, Dr. Vasan, for your time, your insights, and your excitement. As a patient, it’s always good to see that there are doctors, researchers, and clinicians as invested in our care as we think everybody should be. Very much appreciated. The Patient Story has a YouTube channel with all these videos, which is wonderful. But, Dr. Vasan, where do you point patients to get more information?

Dr. Vasan: Every patient is so different. Sometimes you find something online that’s not right or relevant. Sometimes I hear from patients, “I saw this,” and I have to tell them, “That’s not relevant for you because of X, Y, and Z. It might be something we talk about later, but now, this is why it’s not relevant.”

There can be a lot of information and it’s hard to know how to interpret the data. Breast cancer is such a fast-moving field. When anyone gets diagnosed, they’re going to talk to family members. More often than not, how breast cancer was treated in your loved one five years ago might be radically different. It might not even be an option now because there are newer and better things. It doesn’t mean you should talk to everyone in your life, but you’re going to get a lot of information and sometimes it’s discordant.

The National Comprehensive Cancer Network (NCCN) is a great place to start. The Living Beyond Breast Cancer (LBBC) and MBC Alliance websites are great. All of the documents I’ve seen on all of those websites are spot on. Those are great places to start.

Wikipedia and Twitter are not great places to start. That being said, Twitter is a great place to find your tribe, find your network, and link with people. I highly encourage people to reach out on Twitter. I’ve been humbled and awed by the groundswell in patient advocacy.

The PIK3CA Pathbreakers has a huge Facebook group, as do all of the other patient advocacy groups.

Find your tribe. Get anecdotes and stories from all of those people, but be judicious about what information you take in about your own cancer. Don’t necessarily extrapolate everything you hear to your own.

Conclusion

Abigail: The most important thing that patients who are living with breast cancer and their loved ones need to know is that there’s no one right way to do it. What makes you comfortable, what makes you able to handle it, and what makes you able to put cancer into your life, not your life into cancer — that is the right way to live with cancer.


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Queen D., Metastatic Breast Cancer



Symptom: Visible painful lump on the breast
Treatments: Surgeries (16 procedures), radiation therapy (15 rounds), chemotherapy, immunotherapy, anti-hormonal therapy
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Symptoms: Bruising sensation in the breast, soft lump

Treatments: Chemotherapy, clinical trial (antibody-drug conjugate and immunotherapy)
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Symptoms: Hardening under the armpit, lump & dimpling in the left breast

Treatments: Chemotherapy, surgery (lumpectomy), radiotherapy, hormone-blocking medication, targeted therapy
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Sherri O., Metastatic Breast Cancer, HER2+ & Colon Cancer, Stage 3
Symptoms: Shortness of breath, lump under armpit, not feeling herself
Treatments: Chemotherapy, Transfusions
April D.

April D., Triple-Negative Metastatic Breast Cancer, BRCA1+



Symptom: Four lumps on the side of the left breast

Treatments: Chemotherapy (carboplatin, paclitaxel doxorubicin, surgery (double mastectomy), radiation (proton therapy), PARP inhibitors
Brittney shares her stage 4 breast cancer story
Brittney B., Metastatic Breast Cancer
Symptoms: Lump in the right breast, inverted nipple

Treatments: Surgery, chemotherapy, immunotherapy, radiation
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Bethany W., Metastatic Breast Cancer



Symptom: Lower back pain
Treatments: Chemotherapy, radiation, maintenance treatment

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Symptoms: Back and leg pain, lump in breast



Treatments: Surgery, chemotherapy, radiation, CDK4/6 inhibitors

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Kyle’s Journey as a Lung Cancer Care Partner

Kyle’s Journey as a Care Partner Through Love and Loss

Jenny Appleford was a beloved YouTube creator who bravely shared her stage 4 lung cancer journey with the world – not just to raise awareness, but to help others feel less alone. Diagnosed at just 33 with no history of smoking, she used her platform to document everything from treatment updates to quiet family moments, offering a powerful glimpse into life with terminal illness. Her honesty, faith, and fierce love for her family inspired thousands.

In 2023, Jenny passed away – but her voice lives on, not only through her videos, but through her husband, Kyle. In this deeply personal interview, Kyle opens up about what it was like to care for Jenny through her illness, the heartbreak of losing her, and the challenges of navigating parenthood and grief without her by his side. He shares how he’s finding strength, honoring Jenny’s legacy, and learning to live again – one moment at a time.

Interviewed by: Nikki Murphy
Edited by: Katrina Villareal

Jenny was diagnosed with non-small cell lung cancer at 33, despite having no history of smoking. Initially, she was diagnosed with stage 3A but even after different treatments that gave her a good quality of life, they found metastases in her brain. She was later diagnosed with stage 4 lung cancer.

Losing Jenny was an experience filled with unimaginable heartbreak, quiet strength, and enduring love. As her husband and care partner, Kyle tried to remain strong for her and their two young kids, even when inside he was falling apart. In her final days, although confused at times due to the brain metastases, Jenny never stopped being Jenny — full of love, faith, and resilience. She was positive until the very end, always reminding them that she never gave up and that she loved her family deeply.

After Jenny passed, the grief was overwhelming. Kyle had to find a way to balance his pain while supporting their children through theirs. The house was quieter, lonelier, and full of memories, but the responsibilities of being a single parent didn’t stop. He leaned heavily on family and friends, and slowly, found moments of healing.

Jenny and Kyle Appleford

Grief isn’t linear. Some days, Kyle felt numb; other days, he felt too happy and guilty for it. Therapy, community support, faith, and exercise helped him start to move from just surviving to living again. He misses everything about Jenny — her voice, her parenting, her presence — but he’s learned that it’s okay to grieve at your own pace.

Parenting without Jenny is the hardest. Kyle can’t lean over and laugh with her about what the kids just said or ask her advice in the moment. But he still talks to her, and sometimes, he feels like she answers. Kyle tries to be the best parent he can be, not to replace her but to honor her.

Jenny’s legacy lives on in the way Kyle parents, in the milestones he celebrates with their kids, and in the love she left behind. She was selfless, even in her final days — writing letters for future birthdays and life moments for their kids. Her strength, kindness, and fight to the end left an imprint on everyone she met. She wanted people to enjoy the moment, to fight for more lung cancer research, and to share their stories to help others feel less alone. And that’s exactly what Kyle and their kids are doing.

Watch Kyle’s full interview to hear the raw, emotional story behind these moments:

  • Hear how Jenny’s final act of love included writing letters for her children’s future birthdays, weddings, and milestones.
  • Learn what it was like to sit bedside in the final days, holding on to every breath and every second together.
  • Discover why grief isn’t a straight path and why feeling “too happy” or “too sad” is part of healing.
  • See how parenting without Jenny has been both heartbreaking and beautiful, with conversations that still include her voice.
  • Find out how Jenny’s legacy continues through advocacy, everyday moments, and the promise to never let her be forgotten.

  • Name:
    • Jenny Appleford
  • Age at Diagnosis:
    • 33
  • Diagnosis:
    • Non-Small Cell Lung Cancer (NSCLC)
  • Staging:
    • Stage 4
  • Symptoms:
    • Rib pain
    • Shortness of breath
  • Treatments:
    • Chemotherapy
    • Radiation therapy
Jenny Appleford
Jenny and Kyle Appleford
Jenny and Kyle Appleford
Jenny and Kyle Appleford
Jenny and Kyle Appleford
Jenny and Kyle Appleford
Jenny and Kyle Appleford

This interview has been edited for clarity. This is not medical advice. Please consult with your healthcare provider to make treatment decisions.


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Symptom: None

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Taking Control: Living Fully with Metastatic Breast Cancer

Beyond Queen’s Diagnosis: Living Fully with Metastatic Breast Cancer

Queen’s story is a powerful, deeply human reminder of the resilience it takes to live with metastatic breast cancer. Diagnosed initially with breast cancer at just 31, Queen spent over a decade navigating surgeries, systemic failures, and personal growth, eventually being told that her cancer had metastasized.

Interviewed by: Taylor Scheib
Edited by: Katrina Villareal

Queen’s health challenges began early, following a teenage pregnancy that left her mind & body stressed and scarred. As a young woman, she developed painful breast fibrosis. At 18, she made the decision to have the fibrous tissue removed and underwent breast augmentation surgery. More than a decade later, the pain returned—worse than before. A second surgery followed.

Then, in 2011, in a moment that could have passed unnoticed, Queen’s blouse slipped slightly off her shoulder. As she adjusted it, she noticed something: a small lump or ball under her skin. That moment changed everything.

At first, doctors dismissed her concerns, saying it was likely just more fibroids—and that at 31, she was too young for breast cancer. But Queen knew her body. She had lived with fibrosis for years and could feel this was different. She also had a strong family history—her mother and aunt had both been diagnosed with breast cancer—and she made sure to share that.

Still, it took multiple cosmetic procedures—including one from a surgeon she says “butchered” her breast—before she would have an answer. In 2012, a cosmetic procedure that removed lump was tested and confirmed to be cancer. It was aggressive and already at stage 2.

What followed was a series of intense treatments: mastectomies, reconstruction, multiple revisions, and a latissimus dorsi flap surgery. Queen later realized that poor surgical choices likely contributed to her cancer spreading. Despite the trauma and complications, she stayed focused on her work and healing. Still, during the pandemic, she skipped appointments out of fear, and by 2021, scans revealed metastatic spread.

One of the most striking parts of Queen’s metastatic breast cancer story is how fiercely she’s had to advocate for herself. Whether demanding radiation, pushing for menopause, or saying “no” to more chemotherapy and immunotherapy, she refuses to be a passive patient. She’s living with metastatic breast cancer, but more importantly, she’s choosing how she wants to live. She’s found strength in her faith, built healthier mental habits, and stopped letting fear dictate her decisions.

Mental health, self-respect, and spiritual grounding are at the heart of Queen’s survivorship. She’s upfront about the hard parts of metastatic breast cancer, including scanxiety, emotional scars, and feeling dismissed by the medical system. But her core message shines through: true healing goes beyond medicine. It’s about setting boundaries, staying mentally strong, trusting your inner voice, and holding onto something greater than yourself. Queen isn’t just getting by; she’s embracing life, leading with intention, and showing others it’s possible to live fully with metastatic breast cancer.

Watch Queen’s story to find out:

  • How a “butchered” surgery changed everything and what unknowingly protected her.
  • Why cancer isn’t a death sentence, even with a metastatic diagnosis.
  • About scanxiety, medical gaslighting, and the emotional toll of living with uncertainty.
  • Her bold decision to stop treatment and what she’s doing instead.
  • How faith, discipline, and self-love help her thrive with metastatic breast cancer.

  • Name: Queen D.
  • Age at Diagnosis:
    • 31
  • Diagnosis:
    • Breast Cancer
  • • Staging:
    • Stage 2 (initial diagnosis)
    • Stage 4
  • Symptom:
    • Visible painful lump on the breast
  • Treatments:
    • Surgeries (16 procedures)
    • Radiation therapy (15 rounds)
    • Chemotherapy
    • Immunotherapy
    • Anti-hormonal therapy
Queen D. metastatic breast cancer
Queen D. metastatic breast cancer
Queen D. metastatic breast cancer
Queen D. metastatic breast cancer
Queen D. metastatic breast cancer
Queen D. metastatic breast cancer
Queen D. metastatic breast cancer

This interview has been edited for clarity. This is not medical advice. Please consult with your healthcare provider to make treatment decisions.


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April D., Triple-Negative Metastatic Breast Cancer, BRCA1+



Symptom: Four lumps on the side of the left breast

Treatments: Chemotherapy (carboplatin, paclitaxel doxorubicin, surgery (double mastectomy), radiation (proton therapy), PARP inhibitors
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Symptoms: Lump in the right breast, inverted nipple

Treatments: Surgery, chemotherapy, immunotherapy, radiation
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Symptom: Lower back pain
Treatments: Chemotherapy, radiation, maintenance treatment

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What Does Crohn’s Disease Look Like? Kristin: Body Positivity!

Kristen Opens Up About Crohn’s Disease, Her Ostomy, and Owning Her Story

Kristen was diagnosed with Crohn’s disease at just 12 years old. For anyone wondering what does Crohn’s disease look like, her story offers a vivid picture. Living with this chronic illness so young meant navigating growing pains and medical challenges simultaneously. She talks about how her world shifted from being a sports-loving, active kid to someone grappling with daily pain, blood in her stool, and emotional isolation. Her story is a heartfelt reminder that chronic illness changes more than your body — it affects how you relate to the world.

Interviewed by: Taylor Scheib
Edited by: Katrina Villareal

Throughout her teenage years, Kristen faced mounting symptoms and emotional struggles. By high school, her condition had worsened significantly. She bounced between treatments and doctors, often feeling let down. When she was in college, everything changed during an appointment when a doctor told her she needed an ostomy.

With her health deteriorating, Kristen agreed. That surgery, though overwhelming and unknown to her at the time, saved her life. She had no prior education about ostomy care and struggled initially, but she and her mom figured it out together.

Kristen F. Crohn's disease

Kristen is honest about the mental health toll of chronic illness, including medical PTSD and anxiety. She didn’t always advocate for herself, but she learned how to speak up. That shift empowered her. She realized that her voice mattered, especially when navigating multiple surgeries, including a total colectomy that made her ostomy permanent. While that decision was emotionally heavy, especially after being told it would be temporary, she eventually accepted it as necessary for her well-being.

Instead of letting shame or misinformation define her, Kristen started sharing her story online to educate and empower others. She uses Instagram as a blog, breaking stigmas around ostomy bags and showing the reality of life with one. She answers common questions about intimacy, product use, and body image. Kristen keeps it real but is always supportive, encouraging others to ask questions and never feel ashamed.

Body positivity plays a huge role in Kristen’s story. She’s chosen to love and appreciate her body for all it has endured. Even with an ostomy, she’s traveled the world, held full-time jobs, enjoys paddleboarding and rollerblading, and continues to thrive. She’s all about hope, mental health awareness, and creating inclusive spaces for people with invisible illnesses. Her message is clear: don’t be afraid to advocate for yourself, embrace your body, and know that even in the hardest moments, you’re not alone.

Watch Kristen’s video to find out more about her story:

  • What products she swears by for stoma care, and which ones she skips.
  • Her reaction when she found out that her ostomy, which she was initially told would be temporary, was going to be permanent.
  • What does Crohn’s disease look like and life with an ostomy, and how she lives fully and freely.
  • From hospital anxiety to medical PTSD, how Kristen’s mental health was impacted and how she’s healing.
  • How a single doctor changed Kristen’s entire life trajectory.

  • Name: Kristen F.
  • Age at Diagnosis:
    • 12
  • Diagnosis:
    • Crohn’s Disease
  • Symptoms:
    • Fatigue
    • Abdominal cramps
    • Blood in stool
    • Loss of appetite
    • Frequent, painful bathroom visits
    • Perianal disease (open wound)
    • Mouth sores
    • Joint pain
  • Treatments:
    • Multiple medications
    • Surgeries: Temporary ostomy, total colectomy (permanent ostomy), Barbie butt surgery (proctectomy)
Kristen F. Crohn's disease
Kristen F. Crohn's disease
Kristen F. Crohn's disease
Kristen F. Crohn's disease
Kristen F. Crohn's disease
Kristen F. Crohn's disease
Kristen F. Crohn's disease

This interview has been edited for clarity. This is not medical advice. Please consult with your healthcare provider to make treatment decisions.


Kristen F. Crohn's disease
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Treatments: Multiple medications, surgeries (temporary ostomy, total colectomy and permanent ostomy, Barbie butt surgery or proctectomy)


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Symptoms: No appetite even when offered a favorite dessert, weight loss

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Symptoms: Overactive bowel, heavy cramps in stomach area, abdominal pain

Treatment: Surgery (ileostomy)

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Symptoms: Blood in stool, unexplained weight loss, stomach pain, constant defecation

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Symptoms: Bowel irregularity, severe stomachaches, blood in stool

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Choosing Quality of Life in Her Rhabdomyosarcoma Treatment

How Brittany Chooses Quality of Life in Her Stage 4 Rhabdomyosarcoma Treatment Decisions

Brittany received a life-altering diagnosis of stage 4 rhabdomyosarcoma in July 2024. What started as a small lump on her jaw quickly escalated into a whirlwind of hospital visits, major surgeries, and tough decisions. But throughout it all, Brittany has remained grounded in her values, fiercely committed to preserving her mental health, self-worth, and autonomy.

Interviewed by: Nikki Murphy
Edited by: Katrina Villareal

When Brittany first noticed the lump, doctors thought it might be a cyst. But after it rapidly swelled during a biopsy, further testing confirmed it was cancer. That moment, she recalls, shattered her sense of normalcy. Getting that phone call was a deeply painful turning point. From there, she had to quickly learn how to advocate for herself.

Initially, Brittany’s first oncologist didn’t offer many choices. She sought a second opinion, and that’s when things began to shift. Despite being a young adult, Brittany learned that stage 4 rhabdomyosarcoma is often treated as a pediatric condition, which brought its own emotional weight. But the new oncologist gave her options, including fertility preservation, which was emotionally and physically taxing but important to her.

Brittany C. stage 4 rhabdomyosarcoma

Brittany started chemotherapy and endured severe nausea, weight loss, and exhaustion, only to find out that the treatment wasn’t effective. In October, doctors removed the tumor surgically, replacing her jaw with titanium and using bone and muscle from her leg for reconstruction. She lost some facial movement in the process, a harsh reminder of the physical toll this diagnosis has taken.

Radiation therapy came next, damaging her salivary glands without improving her condition. Then the cancer spread to her lungs. After more chemo and even a clinical trial, Brittany made the decision that her treatments and their impact on daily life were stealing the quality of life she wanted. She bravely chose to stop her clinical trial treatments and take a more holistic approach, focusing on diet, lifestyle, and emotional healing. She is monitoring her lungs and scheduling a second surgery to work on her jaw.

Mental health has been the toughest part. Losing her physical strength, independence, and even pieces of her identity has been crushing at times. But Brittany has also grown immensely. With unwavering support from her boyfriend and his community, she’s learning to trust herself again, reclaiming her life on her own terms.

Brittany wants others to know they aren’t alone. Stage 4 rhabdomyosarcoma is terrifying, but fear doesn’t get to make the rules. You do. And she’s living proof that, even in the darkest hours, hope and strength can coexist.

Watch Brittany’s video to find out more about:

  • How Brittany found clarity and control after a devastating diagnosis
  • Why she has a titanium jaw
  • The emotional toll of stage 4 rhabdomyosarcoma
  • Why Brittany walked away from treatment to protect her quality of life
  • What it means to find your voice when the world tells you what to do

  • Name: 
    • Brittany C.
  • Age at Diagnosis:
    • 22
  • Diagnosis:
    • Rhabdomyosarcoma
  • Staging:
    • Stage 4
  • Symptom:
    • Small, sharp lump on the right side of the jaw
  • Treatments:
    • Surgeries: tumor removal & planned corrective jaw surgery
    • Chemotherapy
    • Radiation therapy
    • Clinical trial
Brittany C. stage 4 rhabdomyosarcoma
Brittany C. stage 4 rhabdomyosarcoma
Brittany C. stage 4 rhabdomyosarcoma
Brittany C. stage 4 rhabdomyosarcoma
Brittany C. stage 4 rhabdomyosarcoma
Brittany C. stage 4 rhabdomyosarcoma
Brittany C. stage 4 rhabdomyosarcoma

This interview has been edited for clarity. This is not medical advice. Please consult with your healthcare provider to make treatment decisions.


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Jennifer’s Mental Strength living with Kidney & Ovarian Cancer

Jennifer’s Mental Strength Living with Stage 3 Kidney and Stage 4 Ovarian Cancer

In 2023, Jennifer was blindsided by a dual diagnosis of stage 3 kidney cancer and stage 4 ovarian cancer. Her life was turned upside down in an instant. But rather than let fear take over, she leaned into the present moment and shifted her mindset toward gratitude, growth, and healing.

Jennifer’s story began with a mysterious, rapidly growing abdominal swelling, which led her to urgent care, then the ER, and finally a whirlwind of scans and surgery. Despite being healthy, active, and symptom-free weeks earlier, Jennifer’s world changed overnight.

Interviewed by: Nikki Murphy
Edited by: Katrina Villareal

At first, Jennifer felt emotionally frozen. She was never explicitly told, “You have cancer,” but the weight of the diagnosis was undeniable. She didn’t even learn the exact staging until much later, intentionally avoiding medical reports to protect her mental well-being. Eventually, she discovered her stage 3 kidney cancer and stage 4 ovarian cancer diagnoses, but by then, her focus was already on healing.

One of the most striking parts of Jennifer’s story is how deeply isolation impacted her. With her daughter temporarily living with her father and no family close by, Jennifer went through nearly every step of surgery and chemotherapy alone. Yet, she also found a quiet strength in that solitude. It forced her to self-advocate, connect with supportive professionals like Dr. James Kendrick, and trust her own resilience.

Jennifer W.

Physically, the process was intense. Jennifer underwent major surgery that removed multiple organs, including her kidney, gallbladder, spleen, and reproductive system. Still, she recovered surprisingly well and chose to forgo heavy pain meds out of caution, relying mostly on acetaminophen and the support of her spiritual community.

Her mental and emotional recovery became just as important. She prioritized walking, listening to her body, and staying emotionally grounded.

Jennifer emphasizes the importance of staying present, advocating for yourself, and refusing to let a diagnosis define who you are. While there are days she still feels afraid, especially around scan times, her approach remains one of empowerment and emotional honesty.

The road ahead includes continued monitoring, a PARP inhibitor regimen, and lifelong surveillance. But what keeps her grounded is her daughter, her deepened gratitude, and her determination not to let fear take the wheel.

Jennifer’s advice to others? Don’t let yourself spiral. Let your mindset lead with curiosity, strength, and presence. You’re allowed to feel everything, but you’re also capable of more than you know.

Watch the video to find out more about Jennifer’s story:

  • What the worst part of her cancer experience was (it wasn’t surgery or chemo)
  • Why she refused to look at her medical records after diagnosis.
  • What helped her cope when the hospital room was quiet and fear was loud.
  • Why she couldn’t say the C-word and how she found her strength.
  • How she turned fear, isolation, and uncertainty into radical gratitude and growth.

  • Name: 
    • Jennifer W.
  • Age at Diagnosis:
    • 52
  • Diagnosis:
    • Kidney Cancer and Ovarian Cancer
  • Staging:
    • Stage 3 (Kidney Cancer) and Stage 4 (Ovarian Cancer)
  • Mutation:
    • BRCA1
  • Symptom:
    • Abdominal bloating
  • Treatments:
    • Surgeries: hysterectomy, splenectomy, nephrectomy (left kidney removed), cholecystectomy
    • Chemotherapy
    • Targeted therapy: PARP inhibitor
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Jennifer W.

This interview has been edited for clarity. This is not medical advice. Please consult with your healthcare provider to make treatment decisions.


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Healing Together: How My Mom Helped Me Through Bladder Cancer

Healing Together: A Mother and Daughter Navigate High-Grade Bladder Cancer

The Many Faces of Bladder Cancer: Voices of Strength and Resilience

Subtle female bladder cancer symptoms—a faint trace of blood in the urine and nagging UTIs that didn’t respond to treatment—triggered 28-year-old Mary Beth’s diagnosis. Our series, The Many Faces of Bladder Cancer: Voices of Strength and Resilience, completes with a story of an adult daughter battling high-grade, non-muscle invasive bladder cancer (NMIBC) and her mom’s dedication as her caregiver. These powerful stories highlight the experiences and the challenges faced by bladder cancer patients and survivors. This series intends to foster hope, understanding, and a fresh outlook on dealing with this condition while raising bladder cancer awareness.

When Mary Beth was diagnosed with high-grade non-muscle invasive bladder cancer (NMIBC) at 28, the news came as a total shock, not only to her, but to her whole family.

It started when she noticed a little blood in her urine. At first, she thought it was a minor issue, like a urinary tract infection or her menstrual cycle. But when the bleeding returned intermittently despite treatment for UTI, she trusted her instincts and saw a urologist, even though the symptoms had mostly disappeared. [note: these are both signs of common ailments and female bladder cancer symptoms. It’s important to get checked}

That decision changed everything. A quick in-office procedure revealed tumors and after surgery to remove them, Mary Beth received the difficult diagnosis: high-grade non-muscle invasive bladder cancer. The initial consult felt cold and overwhelming, so she sought a second opinion at Vanderbilt University Medical Center, a move that made all the difference.

Throughout it all, her mom, Mary, stood by her side and offered steady emotional support. A retired nurse, Mary showed up for the weekly treatments, cooked meals, created calm, and just listened. Their relationship deepened as they moved through this life-changing experience together.

Mary Beth highlights the vital role caregivers play, not only in helping manage logistics and appointments but in creating a healing environment. Through her connection with Imerman Angels and the Bladder Cancer Advocacy Network, she became a mentor to other young women navigating high-grade bladder cancer. That sense of shared experience brought purpose and healing, allowing her to give back while continuing her recovery.


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Interviewed by: Nikki Murphy
Edited by: Katrina Villareal


I noticed blood in my urine… there wasn’t that much blood, so I didn’t think much of it.

Mary Beth

Introduction

Mary Beth: I was diagnosed with bladder cancer in 2014. I’m a mom of two boys. We live in Danville, Kentucky. My friends and family would describe me as a social, outgoing person who loves to make new connections. I’m very curious and a lifelong learner, interested in expanding and exploring the world around me in any way I can.

Mary: I’m Mary Beth’s mom. My friends and family would describe me as curious, creative, social, and fun-loving.

Mary Beth M. high-grade bladder cancer
Mary Beth M. high-grade bladder cancer

Red Flags I Noticed Before My Diagnosis

Mary Beth: In the fall of 2013, I noticed blood in my urine. I was with my mom when I first noticed it. We were at a family member’s wedding at that time. I thought it was weird, but we were busy and there wasn’t that much blood, so I didn’t think much of it. I thought I had a urinary tract infection (UTI) or was starting my menstrual cycle. I was experiencing it intermittently.

A few months passed and I noticed that it wasn’t going away, even though I had been treated for a UTI. I decided to make an appointment with a urologist to have it checked. I almost didn’t go because I stopped seeing the blood at all. My urine was a teeny bit pink, so it wasn’t alarming. I almost canceled my appointment because it was gone that week, but it was a good thing I didn’t.

I lived in Nashville at the time. I went to see the urologist and he scoped my bladder in his office. He could see that I had tumors in there and wanted to have them removed within a few days. I proceeded to have an outpatient laparoscopic surgery to remove the tumors he saw.

She’s awfully young… She didn’t fit the medical picture that we were familiar with.

Mary

Getting the Official Diagnosis

Mary Beth: A few days later, I received the diagnosis from his office. They told my parents first because they wanted to know what was going on. My parents told me that I had cancer. That was a hard day.

At the private practice I went to, they did a CT scan on the same day I got the scope done. They also did a test that showed a lot of microscopic blood in my urine.

There was a waiting period after the biopsy. That was in February 2014. I remember the day. It was storming outside, which was unusual for February.

Mary Beth M. high-grade bladder cancer
Mary Beth M. high-grade bladder cancer

Mary: We were in Danville and she was in Nashville. This happened through a phone call. Her dad is a retired physician and I’m a retired nurse, so we have a medical background. He primarily got the report. If I remember correctly, he talked to her and I talked to her after that.

We were shocked, to say the least, because there’s no cancer in our families. She’s awfully young and in our experience, bladder cancer typically is for a heavy smoker and usually a middle-aged to old age man. She didn’t fit the medical picture that we were familiar with.

I knew she was very upset. I tried to calm her as best I could on the phone, but that doesn’t help when you’re in shock at something that you were not expecting at all. We all felt like it was an emotional blow.

Her dad and I felt that treatments were the answer and that this could be taken care of. At that time, we were trying to help her cope emotionally, which wasn’t easy because we weren’t in the same town.

All I can remember from that initial consult was the percentages of my cancer getting worse or coming back, which was overwhelming at the time.

Mary Beth

Hearing the News from My Parents

Mary Beth: I was glad that they talked to me about it. It would have been harder if I had gotten the news in the doctor’s office. I felt grateful that I got the news that way because it was softer.

I was thinking, “How did this happen? What could have caused this? How bad was this going to be? What do I need to do next?” I was shocked. I couldn’t believe that it was me that they were talking about. It felt like an out-of-body experience.

Mary Beth M. high-grade bladder cancer
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Discussing My Treatment Options

Mary Beth: It was a pretty intense appointment. He talked about how I could do the first line of treatment, which would be BCG immunotherapy. He also talked about bladder removal (cystectomy). He talked about how my bladder cancer was high grade and the type to recur, and how the odds of it coming back were high. I felt bladder removal was more on his mind for me, so that I wouldn’t have to keep dealing with it. I also think there were other chemotherapies I could mix with that.

There were a few different options, but all I can remember from that initial consult was the percentages of my cancer getting worse or coming back, which was overwhelming at the time. Truthfully, it wasn’t warm and compassionate. I decided to get a second opinion.

We felt she was in the best hands. You could tell that he cared about her and was doing all he could to help her.

Mary

Getting a Second Opinion

Mary Beth: I got a second opinion with Dr. Sam Chang and his team at Vanderbilt University Medical Center. He was awesome from the beginning. He talked about a long continuum of what could happen, from BCG to bladder removal. He talked about how we could start with the basics and see if that works. He was very good about bringing it back to the next step. It wasn’t as overwhelming. He was also a very warm, personable, and compassionate man.

I decided to do BCG at Vanderbilt. I immediately switched my care and records over to Dr. Chang. I immediately felt better because there was a shift in the delivery, energy, and research by the medical team at Vanderbilt.

He was using cutting-edge technology for bladder cancer at that time, which was called Blue Light Cystoscopy (BLC®) with Cysview®. He could perform the procedures using an agent that lights up the cancer cells, almost like a black light, so he could see them more clearly and remove them more easily compared to a normal white light procedure, which is what most urologists offer.

Mary Beth M. high-grade bladder cancer

My Mom’s Role in the Treatment Decision-Making Process

Mary: As a surgeon himself, my husband took the reins with her at the appointments or at least to hear about her options. He took care of the medical aspect of what they were proposing. I was the emotional support and went with her to treatments because he was still practicing at that time.

I was able to stay in Nashville and accompany her to the clinic and help with anything we could do to help at home, so that she could take it easy. That was my main function and where I could help the most, whereas he was more aware of the technical side.

We liked Dr. Chang so much. We felt she was in the best hands. You could tell that he cared about her and was doing all he could to help her, which helped her get through all this.

By October, he didn’t find any cancer. There was no evidence of disease.

Mary Beth

My Treatment Regimen

Mary Beth: After I was diagnosed in February 2014, I had another transurethral resection of bladder tumor (TURBT) in March. Dr. Chang waited a month or so to let my bladder calm down. I did the BCG treatment, which was six weeks of weekly treatment. Afterward, he did another TURBT to check. I waited a longer period and then had three more treatments.

Then I was moved to maintenance treatment. He saw a little bit of cancer remaining after my first six-week treatment, so he looked again and took out a little bit more that he could see. I went on maintenance treatment after those three weeks, waited, did another TURBT, and by October, he didn’t find any cancer. There was no evidence of disease. I consider October 2014 as when I was cancer-free, but I continued to do maintenance.

I had another three-week round and another TURBT in January 2015. It was still clear. I did more maintenance treatment and had my last one in the spring of 2015. We were monitoring and did imaging every three months and then progressed to every six months. In 2016, he said I was good. We wanted to have children at the time and he gave me the green light.

From the diagnosis to the end of treatment was a two-year period. I didn’t have to do chemo. With bladder cancer treatment, there are different combinations they can do, but the BCG worked, which was the least toxic. It left my system when I was done. It was not a fertility concern, which was great.

BCG immunotherapy
Mary Beth M. high-grade bladder cancer

The Importance of Having My Mom with Me During Treatment

Mary Beth: My treatments were on Friday afternoons. I worked a full-time job and would take Friday afternoons off to get the bladder installations in the clinic.

My mom would keep me company. I had to wait a long time to go in and get the treatment. Then I had to wait a little more, having it in my bladder, before I could leave. Sometimes my mom drove me, but other times she was there to accompany me then we would go back to my house.

I needed to hold the BCG in my bladder for two hours for it to work, which could be challenging, especially when you have sensitivity. It can be very uncomfortable. After two hours, I would go to the bathroom and let the BCG go.

I would have a pretty sensitive bladder for 24 to 48 hours. There was a lot of stinging, burning, and a frequent urge to urinate. I would try to take it easy and have fun, like watching TV, eating good food, and trying to enjoy myself as best I could to distract myself from it. We would usually do something fun that weekend, but those were six weeks in a row.

By my fourth or fifth treatment, I felt like I had the flu. I felt tired and achy, as if I had a low-grade fever, but not to the point where I couldn’t go to work or do things. I just had to rest a lot more.

At the time, I was 28, so I wanted to be active. I’m a pretty energetic person, but I was forced to take it easy on the weekends. My mom was good about hanging out with me and doing low-key activities.

I would let her energy and desires drive whatever we would do or not do. I kept her comfortable and distracted.

Mary

How My Mom Felt Seeing Me Go Through Cancer Treatment

Mary: Being a nurse, a clinic environment and patient care are very familiar, so it wasn’t as intimidating or frightening as it might be for a lay person. When we would get back to her house, I would make some food and we would watch movies. We might walk a little bit in her neighborhood — she had a beautiful neighborhood. But mainly, we hang out. I would let her energy and desires drive whatever we would do or not do. I kept her comfortable and distracted.

We love good old movies, so we watched movies and spent time together. Simply being there made a big difference to us. When she didn’t feel like doing anything, we let her rest, and I would cook, clean, or do whatever needed to be done.

Mary Beth M. high-grade bladder cancer
Mary Beth M. high-grade bladder cancer

Discovering Imerman Angels

Mary Beth: When I was diagnosed in 2014, especially that spring and summer, it was difficult to feel positive because I was worried and frightened. It was also hard because my family and friends were worried about me. I decided to join a walk for bladder cancer awareness in Lexington, Kentucky, with a lot of my family members and friends, and it was great.

Nashville doesn’t have a bladder cancer walk, and I thought we should because we have a huge medical community and great urology programs. I worked with the Bladder Cancer Advocacy Network (BCAN) to start the walk in Nashville in 2015. At this point, I was through the worst of my diagnosis and treatments.

Helping other young women who are dealing with this diagnosis helped me heal as well.

Mary Beth

It put me in an advocacy mindset about sharing my story and helping others. I found ways to connect as a patient advocate. Imerman Angels came up immediately when I was searching for that type of work and outlet for myself. Helping other young women who are dealing with this diagnosis helped me heal as well. I connected with them.

Every time I had a phone call or matched with another patient, I felt great being able to answer questions, share my story, and help them. I did the same thing with BCAN, which has a patient advocacy program. If there are others, I’m all about signing up as a mentor and a person to chat, but Imerman Angels has always been very professional and on top of how they match and follow up. It’s been a good experience for me for sure.

Mary Beth M. high-grade bladder cancer
Mary Beth M. high-grade bladder cancer

What My Mom Didn’t Know While I Was Going Through Cancer Treatment

Mary Beth: Sometimes, I didn’t show how scared I was. I expressed how grateful I was that she came, but I want to reinforce that. It was a huge time commitment on her part to drive three hours to see me and spend time with me. They were even able to get a place in my neighborhood so they could be close by. To be spending so much of her time away from her other responsibilities was a major time commitment and I appreciated that.

I needed the caretaking, but I also needed a lot of positive energy. My mom is very upbeat. She tries to help with peace, hope, and faith. She’s a very spiritual person, and the spirituality that she brought and the conversations that we had during that time helped me get through. It was impactful to me, so I started my own journey.

Mary: I was sure she was scared, but she was brave. It’s very devastating emotionally and physically, but I felt like she would get through it and be cured of it. I also knew that if looked at correctly, this could teach her a lot about her inner strength and spiritual strength. I felt like we had the same goal. Whatever she shared with me was something for me to learn from, too.

We connected on a deeper level… It’s been very valuable for us to know each other deeply through a crisis where we came together.

Mary

Cancer’s Impact on Our Relationship

Mary Beth: The experience brought us closer. I was going through it as an adult, but I also needed some guidance. We were not communicating as frequently or spending as much time together, but that time helped us bond more. One of the bigger things out of the whole experience was having a genuine time to connect. 

Mary: I would agree. Her brother married and moved away, so I’m not involved in his life frequently. When she moved to Nashville, I thought it would be the same pattern. Your children have flown the coop and are setting up their nests, and you’re visiting and enjoying being with them.

This was the call to come to her aid. Since she went away to college and got married, she has never lived with me again. It was a time for us to get to know each other as women, not just as mother and daughter. As time goes by, I’m going to need some help from her.

We connected on a deeper level. I don’t think that would have occurred if she continued to live in another state. It’s been very valuable for us to know each other deeply through a crisis where we came together.

Mary Beth M. high-grade bladder cancer
Mary Beth M. high-grade bladder cancer

My Advice to Fellow Bladder Cancer Patients

Mary Beth: The biggest thing that I can say is to advocate for yourself. When you know something’s not right, follow your gut instinct and persist through the medical system, though it can be challenging and confusing. Seek out other opinions. You don’t have to do this one certain way. Be open to other modes of treatment.

Expand your sense of care to family and friends who want to be there for you. Don’t feel like you have to be strong all the time. Allow yourself to feel vulnerable. You can feel scared and sad. Getting the help that you need to move through those feelings and finding the pathway that fits you best is a process.

Don’t feel like you have to be strong all the time. Allow yourself to feel vulnerable.

Mary Beth

At that time, I was in a place where I could explore different avenues to help me on all levels: mind, body, and spirit. I felt very fortunate. I encourage anyone going through this to be open to asking others who’ve been through it themselves to know that they’re not alone.

Mary Beth M. high-grade bladder cancer
Mary Beth M. high-grade bladder cancer

My Mom’s Advice to Fellow Caregivers

Mary: Listen to your family member or friend because they’ll tell you what they need, even though sometimes they might not tell you directly. The doctors will give instructions post-treatment, but being with somebody who can care for you is powerful and healing.

Be there for them. Don’t take away their autonomy of how they want to go through this. Be a sounding board. Your fear will probably make you want to fix them quickly.

The lessons are there for both of you. If you can meet them where they are and go through it with them, the experience will have many blessings, even though it doesn’t seem like it on the outside. It could be the best thing.

Be there for them. Don’t take away their autonomy of how they want to go through this.

Mary

Mary Beth: I remember participating in these walks, which were positive experiences and a focus for me for those two years that I was in the thick of it. I could gather my family and friends, and do something positive. It shifted the energy and focus from me to a bigger picture, being a part of a larger community and a larger cause.

It took away a lot of focus on what might be going on with me. I didn’t do it as an escape but more to shift the energy. It worked because my parents were involved. We had family and friends come from out of town. It helps to find the larger connection with others during a difficult time. You’re not alone. You can be connected through challenge.

Mary Beth M. high-grade bladder cancer

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Stage 3 Rectal Cancer: What James Wishes More People Knew

Rectal Cancer at 31: 20 Years Later – What James Wishes More People Knew

James was just 31 when he was diagnosed with stage 3 rectal cancer (stage 3C/4) in 2003. His story is powerful, emotional, and deeply human, full of hard lessons, honest reflections, and resilience in the face of change. Before jumping into the challenges he faced and continues to face, know that we are talking to him 20 years after his diagnosis. Keep that fact with you as you take in his story. Through his experience, James came out the other side with a new understanding of life, health, and identity.

Interviewed by: Nikki Murphy
Edited by: Katrina Villareal

For years, James experienced rectal bleeding, which was brushed off as hemorrhoids. Despite reassurances from his primary care doctor and even a gastroenterologist, he trusted his instincts and pushed for a colonoscopy. That test revealed a tumor, and in that moment, James knew. “I have rectal cancer,” he told the nurse, who broke into tears. That moment set the tone for what would become a life-altering experience grounded in self-advocacy, awareness, and emotional strength.

James K. rectal cancer

The treatment for rectal cancer was intense. Chemotherapy, radiation, multiple surgeries, and eventually a permanent colostomy were part of the plan. Initially, doctors tried to preserve rectal function, but complications led James to choose the colostomy to improve his quality of life. It wasn’t an easy decision, but for him, it was the right one. He emphasizes that a colostomy isn’t something to fear; it’s manageable and can absolutely be life-saving.

James speaks openly about the emotional toll rectal cancer took on him. It stripped away his sense of self and forced him to come to terms with a “new normal.” He faced physical challenges like chronic pain, fatigue, and even had to teach himself to self-catheterize. But alongside all that, he also faced a mental and emotional reckoning: accepting help, learning patience, and embracing vulnerability.

What sets James apart is his focus on empowerment and education. He wants others to listen to their bodies, speak up when something feels wrong, and not be afraid to advocate for themselves. For James, survivorship isn’t about going back to how things were. It’s about adapting, growing, and finding meaning in new experiences, even when life looks completely different.

Now, more than 20 years out with no recurrence of rectal cancer, James still lives with side effects of treatment, but doesn’t let them define him. He shares his experience to let others know they’re not alone. You can live a full, meaningful life with rectal cancer. It may look different, but it’s still yours.

Watch James’ video to find out more about his story:

  • James knew something was wrong long before doctors did and he didn’t stay silent.
  • From possible hemorrhoids to a life-saving colostomy, James shares it all.
  • Life after rectal cancer isn’t easy, but James proves it’s possible and meaningful.
  • Discover why James calls his colostomy both difficult and a relief.

  • Name: James K.
  • Age at Diagnosis:
    • 31
  • Diagnosis:
    • Rectal Cancer
  • Staging:
    • Stage 3C/4
  • Symptoms:
    • Occasional rectal bleeding
    • Increasing fatigue
  • Treatments:
    • Chemoradiation
    • Surgeries: coloanal pull-through, temporary ileostomy, ileostomy reversal, permanent colostomy
    • Adjuvant chemotherapy

This interview has been edited for clarity. This is not medical advice. Please consult with your healthcare provider to make treatment decisions.


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What Myelofibrosis Taught Demetria About Showing Up for Herself

What Myelofibrosis Taught Demetria About Showing Up for Herself

Interviewed by: Taylor Scheib
Edited by: Katrina Villareal

In a heartfelt and powerful conversation, Demetria, a resilient businesswoman, opens up about her experience with myelofibrosis, a rare blood cancer, and how it reshaped her life in the most unexpected ways.

From the outside, she was the glue — supportive, successful, always encouraging others. But behind the scenes, a wave of unrelenting fatigue had crept into her life, something deeper than just being “tired.” It took persistence and self-advocacy for her concerns to be taken seriously by her doctor, and soon, she found herself face-to-face with an oncologist and an unfamiliar word: myeloproliferative neoplasm.

Initially diagnosed with essential thrombocythemia (ET) due to the JAK2 mutation, she navigated treatment with courage, resilience, and a lot of unanswered questions. Her mental strength carried her through the confusion, and her spiritual grounding gave her clarity when facts didn’t. Despite feeling isolated in her diagnosis, she remained inquisitive and proactive, seeking second opinions and trusting her instincts.

Demetria J. myelofibrosis

As her condition progressed into myelofibrosis, the reality hit harder. Her body stopped producing blood cells. She found herself in complete bone marrow failure and urgently needed a bone marrow transplant. What followed was a deeply emotional and spiritual experience marked by weekly blood transfusions, a life-changing phone call from a donor registry, and a renewed sense of purpose.

What stands out is not just her diagnosis, but the quiet power with which she faced it. She never let fear define her. Instead, she leaned into her faith, stayed curious, and used the waiting period to advocate for more African Americans to join the donor registry — a crucial step, as she learned how underrepresented Black patients are in the system.

Demetria’s story isn’t just about myelofibrosis; it’s about mental wellness, feeling seen, and finding peace even in uncertainty. She openly shares the importance of prioritizing health, listening to your body, and staying grounded in what truly matters — family, purpose, and presence.

Now thriving post-transplant, she’s working on launching a nonprofit that supports awareness and self-care for entrepreneurs and communities impacted by myeloproliferative neoplasms. She’s proof that healing is as much about inner peace and support systems as it is about medical treatment.

Watch Demetria’s video to find out more about her story:

  • What happened when a mystery illness was something she never expected?
  • How she turned a cancer diagnosis into a platform for life-saving advocacy.
  • From weekly transfusions to spiritual clarity, how she shifted her perspective.
  • Learn how one woman brought her daughter into her healing process in the most touching way.
  • Why she says “feeling good” means more than “looking good” and how she got there.

  • Name: Demetria J.
  • Age at Diagnosis:
    • 41
  • Diagnosis:
    • Essential thrombocythemia (ET), later progressing to myelofibrosis (MF)
  • Mutation:
    • JAK2
  • Symptoms:
    • Extreme fatigue
    • Stomach pain (later identified as due to an enlarged spleen)
    • Dizziness
    • Shortness of breath
  • Treatments:
    • Spleen-shrinking medication
    • Regular blood transfusions
    • Bone marrow transplant
Demetria J. myelofibrosis

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This interview has been edited for clarity and length. This is not medical advice. Please consult with your healthcare provider to make treatment decisions.



I started experiencing extreme fatigue. When I would get home… I wanted to go straight to bed.

Introduction

Those closest to me would probably say that I’m their biggest cheerleader. I have been gifted with the ability to encourage people and give them a little extra boost when they may feel like they can’t do something or are going through a certain situation. I have a unique ability to give a different perspective on things. A lot of times, I’ve heard people even describe me as a silent strength. Even though I can speak to people, I’m not very vocal. I may not talk a lot, but when I do talk, I use my words in a meaningful way.

Demetria J. myelofibrosis
Demetria J. myelofibrosis

Red Flags I Noticed Before My Diagnosis

I have been a business owner for over 15 years. I was also working with an organization that works with kids, trying to get them into high school. On top of those, I was doing a lot of traveling. I was busy all the time.

I started experiencing extreme fatigue. When I would get home, I would normally tend to our daughter, who was very young at the time. I would fix dinner and hang out around the house. Instead, I wanted to go straight to bed, and that’s why I knew this was a different kind of tired. I didn’t even have the energy to do anything except go straight to bed.

When it was time for my routine check-up with my physician, I mentioned to him that I’ve been tired. At first, he brushed it off. He said, “Well, you do a lot.” I told him it was a different kind of tired. He said, “We’ll run some extra blood work to check your nutrient levels. Maybe you’re low in B12 or something,” but that was not the case.

After a couple of days, while I was driving, the doctor’s office called. The nurse said, “Your blood work came back, and your doctor is sending you to an oncologist.” I said, “Wait. Hold on. Let me pull over.”

I pulled over into a parking lot and said, “Did I hear you correctly? You’re referring me to an oncologist?” She said yes. I asked why. She said, “Your platelet counts were extremely high. They were in the millions.” I asked her what that meant. She said, “We’re not quite sure. That’s why he’s referring you to an oncologist.” The journey began from there.

I took the medication for about a year and a half, and started feeling much better, to the point where my numbers started leveling out.

Meeting My First Oncologist

When I got home, I went online, like most people do. I searched, “high platelets, what does that mean?” It gave me different things. The first thing most oncologists want to do is a bone marrow biopsy to figure out what’s going on in the marrow. She said, “I think this is what it is.”

One of the things that was a little alarming for me at that time was when she said, “You’re fairly young and most of the time, we don’t see this present in people of your age.” In that moment, I didn’t feel like there was more that she was willing to do.

One of the things she asked was, “Do you and your husband still want to potentially have another child?” I said yes because at that time, I was in my mid-30s. I didn’t feel like she wanted to explore any other options because I was a unique case.

hands on laptop
doctor

Getting a Second Opinion

I ended up at Emory Hospital in Atlanta. At the time, the oncologist there felt as if I would do better on another medication that was fairly new to the oncology world. It had recently come out of a clinical trial, but it was showing very positive results. He said, “I think you would fare better on this,” so that’s what I did.

I took the medication for about a year and a half, and started feeling much better, to the point where my numbers started leveling out. The platelet counts had gone down to the normal range. That was one of the things that he was hoping for.

The clinical trial findings had shown that some individuals were able to get off the medication and their bodies were able to sustain themselves, and that’s where I thought I had ultimately landed until the next journey began.

No one could give me an answer. I was feeling frustrated because I didn’t understand how this could happen.

My Reaction to the Essential Thrombocythemia Diagnosis

When I was young, my mother had leukemia. She was with me at the doctor’s appointment that day, and our initial thought process was whether it was hereditary and potentially came from her. They said it typically wasn’t how it works. I found out that there was a JAK2 mutation in my blood that was causing the essential thrombocythemia (ET) to happen.

I had a lot of questions. I was very inquisitive. How does this happen? How do you get the mutation? It was a little frustrating because I couldn’t get any direct answers. Ultimately, they landed on I was born with this mutation.

If I were born with this mutation, why did it express itself at this point in my life? What made it express itself? If it’s been in my DNA this entire time, why did it express itself at this time? No one could give me an answer. I was feeling frustrated because I didn’t understand how this could happen.

Demetria J.
Variety of chemotherapy drugs in bottles

Educating Myself on Treatment Options

In your mind, you just want to survive and get better. I didn’t lean too heavily into what the complications could be. I know that if I read too much into all of those things, it could create a roadblock for me because my mind would shift to these other things, so I didn’t want to go down that road.

Our insurance wouldn’t pay for the medication. Thankfully, we found an organization that provided financial assistance. The medication was over $1,000 a month, but even so, my husband and I were prepared to do whatever we needed to do to afford it so that it could improve my quality of life.

Our insurance wouldn’t pay for the medication… my husband and I were prepared to do whatever we needed to do to afford it so that it could improve my quality of life.

Possibility of Disease Progression

There wasn’t any tracking, but I was made aware that there could potentially be a progression of the disease. Once I was a year out and feeling well, everything seemed okay. Honestly, it never even crossed my mind that something worse could come down the pipe. I went back to living life and jumping into entrepreneurship and my family. I wasn’t looking back.

When I Started Feeling Symptoms Again

Once again, fatigue was the biggest presenting symptom. I also experienced stomach pain. Looking back, that was my enlarged spleen that was causing the pain in my stomach, but I thought they were two isolated things. Neither one of them meant that I had cancer. I thought they were independent of each other, so I kept going on and diagnosing myself of what I thought was going on until it became too much to bear.

stomach pain

Feeling Worsening Symptoms

I developed dizziness. About two weeks before the actual diagnosis, I started getting dizzy. Two main events made me think that something was going on. My husband and I were at a track and field day with our daughter. We had to walk quite a distance from the parking lot to the bleachers, and I was struggling with my breathing and dizziness.

We were towards the end of the year, so I wanted to buy my daughter’s teacher a thank-you gift. I was in line at the store and felt like I was going to pass out. I told the cashier I was going to leave my stuff and go to the car for a minute. I took dimenhydrinate because I thought I was going to have vertigo. I was sitting in the car for about 10 minutes and thought I’d try again.

I went back into the store and I seemed to be okay. I get back in line then I start to feel it again. I jokingly said, “I’m in a big hurry. I’m not trying to rush you, but can we speed it up?” She was extremely nice; she was talking and taking her time, but I felt like I was about to pass out.

I got back in the car, called my husband, and told him I might have to go to a walk-in clinic or somewhere the following day because I was still getting dizzy.

‘All your blood levels are dangerously low. I don’t even know how you’re functioning.’

Later on, I had a sharp pain in my stomach again, so I thought something was up. The next morning, I get up to find out what time the clinic opens because I want to be the first person in.

That morning, I wasn’t dealing with any dizziness. It was the pain in the stomach that was presenting more that day. I thought I might have bacteria in my stomach. I go to the clinic and explain the symptoms to the doctor. She said, “We’ll test you for H. pylori and make sure you don’t have that, but let’s run some blood work to rule out anything,” which was the best thing that she could have ever done for me.

She called me the next day and said, “Your labs came back and all your blood levels are dangerously low. I don’t even know how you’re functioning. You need to go to the emergency room right now. They’re probably going to give you a blood transfusion. I’m emailing you your lab work so you can show it when you get there. They will figure out what’s going on because I’m not quite sure, but something’s going on.”

blood test tubes
Demetria J. myelofibrosis

Going to the Emergency Room

My husband brought me to the ER and my mom drove up from Georgia to be with me. Thankfully, they were very attentive when I showed them the lab work that the doctor emailed me and they immediately took me back. They initially went down the track of gastroenterology. They said, “We’re going to draw some more blood to see for ourselves.”

After the lab work, the doctor came back in and blatantly said, “No, this is cancer.” My mom, my husband, and I were looking at each other. One of the oncologists whom I previously saw was on call at the ER that day. When the doctor on call was saying that this was cancer, she said his name and when I told her I knew him, she came to get him. He comes in, remembers me, and takes over my care completely.

Finding Out I Have Myelofibrosis

He transferred me to another hospital that he felt would be able to serve me better. He ordered the bone marrow biopsy. He came back and said, “It’s myelofibrosis.” He immediately put me on the national donor list. He informed me that he feels like I need to have a bone marrow transplant to live.

I was in complete bone marrow failure at that point. My body was not making any blood cells at all and that’s why my blood levels were so dangerously low. Every day, old cells die off and your body generates new cells, but mine were dying off and nothing was being generated. Until they found me a donor, I was going to have regular blood transfusions to keep my body going.

They noticed how calm I was. There’s no other way to describe it except for the peace of God.

My Reaction to a New Cancer Diagnosis

Surprisingly, I was very calm. I ended up staying in the hospital for five days after going to the ER. I called family and close friends, and when they came to visit, they noticed how calm I was. There’s no other way to describe it except for the peace of God. I had a peace that I only know came from Him because I knew that it was serious, but it didn’t rattle me. It didn’t make me feel hopeless. I felt that I’ve been through ET, so I can make it through this one.

One night, when I was in the hospital by myself, I was lying in bed and talking to God. I was saying, “Okay, we’re going through this,” and I feel Him say to me, “You’re not going to die. It’s bigger than you.” I didn’t quite understand what it meant in that moment, but it gave me something to hold on to. Even at times when I felt like I was going to die, I said, “Nope. He said I’m not going to die, so I’m not. It’s going to be okay.”

praying hands
bone marrow aspiration

My Thoughts on Needing a Bone Marrow Transplant

When they said they were putting me on the national donor list, I thought it was great until I had a visit with the transplant surgeon. He said, “We are very hopeful that you can get a donor, but African Americans make up the lowest percentage on the national registry. Because of that, your chance of finding a donor is a longer stretch. It could potentially be two to three years because we don’t have enough pool of people to pull from.”

That stopped me in my tracks because you have this hope that you can get a donor, but you find out the chances are very slim based on the statistics. I asked him, “What can I do to help? How do we get more African Americans or Blacks to sign up to get on the registry?” He said, “Be The Match. You would probably have to contact them,” and that’s exactly what we did.

We contacted them to figure out how to hold donation drives to increase the number of individuals on the registry. That became part of my focus. Honestly, I think that helped to keep me from thinking about the other things because my focus shifted. How can we increase the number of African Americans on the registry so that if another person has this diagnosis, they don’t have to face the fact that there are only 29% of people to pull from?

To hear that they found me a donor was unbelievable.

Finding a Match

By God’s grace, two and a half months later, I received a phone call. My husband and I were sitting on the couch. You know how sometimes you don’t answer unknown numbers because you think it’s spam? By this time, I’m answering every phone call regardless of whether I know the number or not, because I don’t know who it could be.

An unknown number called and I answered it. She confirmed that it was me on the phone and said, “I think we have potentially found a donor for you.” My mouth flew open. I put her on speakerphone so my husband could hear her.

It was a surreal moment. In my head, I had two to three years. To hear that they found me a donor was unbelievable.

woman holding phone
blood transfusion

Undergoing Regular Blood Transfusions

A year prior, my oncologist had moved to where I lived, so he knew all of the transplant surgeons and was in direct contact with them. They were walking him through my protocol. They immediately wanted to shrink my spleen, so they put me on a medication to help shrink the spleen and ease some of the symptoms from myelofibrosis. That was a big help in addition to going every 7 to 10 days for transfusions.

The transfusions improved my quality of life. Typically, the day after a transfusion, I would wake up and feel better. Their goal was to keep my hemoglobin level above seven, which is still low, but I felt wonderful coming from a four.

When I would go see the oncologist, they would check my blood levels and send me to have a transfusion. I pretty much knew that I was going to get a transfusion every week. I made friends with all the staff. It wasn’t as sad as people may think because even though my life revolved around being in a doctor’s office or a hospital every week, I still got to interact with people. This was my new normal.

We were praying that my donor wouldn’t think it’s too much and back out.

Preparing Myself for the Bone Marrow Transplant

My husband and I prayed for my donor because they say potential until you get close enough to where everything is solidified. Potential means that they’ve located the donor and reached out to them, and they agreed, but there are several more steps that the donor has to go through.

I didn’t know that all of the pre-testing that I went through, my donor also went through, so I thought that the donor was a selfless human being to go through all of that for a stranger. We were praying that my donor wouldn’t think it’s too much and back out.

Once we got close enough to the point where it’s final and I’m having the transplant, my hair was extremely long. Our daughter was 10 years old at the time, so she didn’t fully understand everything because we wanted to shield her from some of the details. I told her, “Mommy’s going to lose her hair.” She was saddened by that because she loved to play with my hair.

Demetria J. myelofibrosis
Demetria J. myelofibrosis

I thought, “How do I bring her into a part of this?” I allowed her to cut my hair before going to have the transplant. We recorded it and shared it on social media. It had a huge number of views and shares. I began to understand what God meant when He said it was bigger than me. I met so many incredible people through social media.

I brought her into it so that she could feel like she was a part of it. I knew that I was going to lose my hair. It softened the blow a little bit to see a shorter amount leave your head than long strands. Mentally, that’s how I prepared myself for losing all my hair. Outside of that, I decided I have to be present every day and show up every day ready for the journey.

My experience taught me to reprioritize my life… If you don’t take care of yourself, then nothing else can thrive.

My Life After Transplant

My experience taught me to reprioritize my life. I was a busy bee. I was everywhere doing everything. All good stuff, but sometimes, something like this stops you in your tracks. It completely slowed me down. I had time to reflect on what things are most important.

When you’re lying in bed, you’re not thinking about customers; you’re thinking about your family and your loved ones. They’re most important to me. It redefined how I show up and what matters to me the most. How am I going to live my life from this point forward? It changed everything.

It’s so funny because when I see people out, they say, “You look so good!” I always say, “Thank you, but I feel so good.” Feeling good is better than looking good. They always laugh because I appreciate that I look good, but I appreciate most that I feel good.

I didn’t even know that this is how I was supposed to feel because it became a normal feeling, the way I previously felt. I thought that what it was like as a busy person, not understanding fully that it wasn’t having a good quality of life, even though externally you had a lot of good things. I succumbed to the fact that that’s how you feel when you’re busy. I’m amazed because I didn’t even know that this is how I was supposed to feel.

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bone marrow donor drive

Educating People About Myeloproliferative Neoplasms (MPNs)

I’m hoping to create a nonprofit where I can continue some of the efforts that we were doing. I paused the transplant to regain my health and get things in order.

Now I feel like I’m at a place where I can embark on something a little bit bigger. I do think it’s important, especially around entrepreneurship and business owners. A lot of us wear so many hats that tons of us do exactly what I did. We keep going. We keep showing up for our businesses and our customers, but we don’t necessarily show up for ourselves.

I want to work on how that looks, where I can encourage business owners and entrepreneurs. I understand the hustle. I understand that a lot of times, that’s what it takes to get your business off the ground. But you are the most valuable person in that thing. If you don’t take care of yourself, then nothing else can thrive.

Take a step back and look at what you’re doing for yourself.

My Advice About Paying Attention to Your Body

It’s not selfish to take care of yourself. The first law of nature is self-preservation, which we violate all the time. We put other things and other people ahead of ourselves. If we aren’t well, then we can’t be well to anybody else.

When you shift that perspective about life and how you show up, then you will prioritize your health. You will prioritize being good to yourself. We’re all guilty of that to some degree, but I hope that in sharing my story, it would inspire people to look beyond what it is that you’re doing for others, take a step back, and look at what you’re doing for yourself.

A lot of times, when I wanted to go to doctor appointments and do certain things, I would say, “Oh, but my clients are going to be so disappointed if I have to cancel them.” If I’m not here, that’s going to be more devastating than me having to cancel on her. Look at life a little differently. Are you taking care of yourself? Take care of yourself first.

Demetria J. myelofibrosis
Demetria J. myelofibrosis

My Advice About the Mental and Emotional Side of a Cancer Diagnosis

You have to remain hopeful. Hope is what you can hold on to when everything else feels like it’s slipping through your fingers. Hope anchors you to the possibility of living on the other side of this thing. When you lose hope, then you have nothing. Hope is the foundation.

People say, “How do you have hope when it looks so daunting?” I had to shift to gratefulness. Gratefulness was another key piece that helped me to remain hopeful.

Nobody’s grateful for a diagnosis, but I was grateful that there was a solution at hand. I was grateful that there were people who were willing to do whatever they needed to do to help me on my journey. When you begin to be grateful amid the storm, that’s where hope can start to shine its head a little bit.

It could have been a lot worse. I don’t know how worse it could get, but it could have been. Hopefulness is what anchors you to the possibility of more.

Stress can be a silent killer as well. Stress probably undergirds most diseases and diagnoses. Make sure that as you navigate through life, you check on yourself. Am I carrying too much? Am I worrying too much?

With the current state of things, people are worried about whether they can afford food or housing. At the end of the day, your life is the most important thing. Even when things are tight and it feels like you don’t have enough, the worry and the stress will do more than not having enough.

Remain hopeful. Hope is what you can hold on to when everything else feels like it’s slipping through your fingers.


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Symptoms: Extreme fatigue, stomach pain (later identified as due to an enlarged spleen), dizziness, shortness of breath
Treatments: Spleen-shrinking medication, regular blood transfusions, bone marrow transplant
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Neal H., Prefibrotic Myelofibrosis



Symptoms: Night sweats, severe itching, abdominal pain, bone pain

Treatment: Tumor necrosis factor blocker, chemotherapy, targeted therapy, testosterone replacement therapy

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Andrea S., essential thrombocythemia (ET) progressing to Myelofibrosis



Symptoms: Fatigue, anemia
Treatments: Targeted therapy (JAK inhibitor), blood transfusions, allogeneic stem cell transplant

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How a PSA Test & Peer Support Helped Rob Face Prostate Cancer

How a PSA Test and Peer Mentoring Helped Rob Face Stage 4 Prostate Cancer

Rob hadn’t expected much from the PSA test (prostate-specific antigen test), it was ordered by his urologist “just in case” after a visit for erectile dysfunction. But that simple test changed everything. His PSA level was 44, far outside the normal range. What followed was a diagnosis of stage 4 prostate cancer, news that left Rob reeling.

Interviewed by: Nikki Murphy
Edited by: Katrina Villareal

A biopsy soon confirmed the worst: prostate cancer, and eventually, that it had spread to his lymph nodes, qualifying it as stage 4. Rob’s world turned upside down. He immediately assumed the worst, and even started to prepare end-of-life documents. One oncologist bluntly told him there would be no cure.

Rob M. stage 4 prostate cancer

The emotional weight was hard to carry, and Rob admits it took a full year of therapy even to begin managing the anger, fear, and grief that came with his diagnosis. Therapy helped him find clarity amid the emotional chaos and process the many losses he faced physically, psychologically, and relationally.

Rob describes the emotional roller coaster vividly, but through it all, he clung to four words: faith, hope, gratitude, and acceptance. These weren’t just abstract ideas; they became his emotional compass. Faith helped him share the load with something bigger than himself. Hope, even when it flickered, was always present. Gratitude helped him stay grounded. And acceptance, while the hardest, was the most healing.

Support came in many forms, but what stood out most to Rob was one-on-one connection. Through Imerman Angels, a nonprofit that matches individuals with similar cancer experiences, he found a mentor who truly understood the emotional weight of stage 4 prostate cancer. While group support has undeniable value and can foster community, Rob felt that having someone walk beside him on a more personal level offered the space to process his emotions more deeply. Today, he pays it forward by mentoring others, aiming to uplift and empower without overwhelming.

While he experienced lasting side effects — from incontinence to penile shrinkage — Rob emphasizes that honest, proactive care could have prevented much of the trauma. Still, he’s found new ways to build intimacy, especially through therapy with his wife. By sharing his story, he wants others to learn from his experiences, ask the hard questions, and not face cancer alone.

Watch Rob’s video to find out more about his story:

  • The PSA test that changed everything, even though Rob almost skipped it.
  • Why Rob thought he was going to die, and what happened next, which surprised everyone.
  • The side effect doctors didn’t warn Rob about and why it still affects him today.
  • How four simple words, faith, hope, gratitude, and acceptance became Rob’s lifeline during stage 4 prostate cancer.
  • From anger to acceptance: How he learned to live again.

  • Name: Rob M.
  • Age at Diagnosis:
    • 65
  • Diagnosis:
    • Prostate Cancer
  • Staging:
    • Stage 4
  • Symptoms:
    • Burning sensation while urinating
    • Erectile dysfunction
  • Treatments:
    • Surgeries: Radical prostatectomy, artificial urinary sphincter (to address incontinence), penile prosthesis
    • Radiation therapy (EBRT)
    • Hormone therapy: androgen deprivation therapy (ADT)
Rob M. stage 4 prostate cancer
Rob M. stage 4 prostate cancer
Rob M. stage 4 prostate cancer
Rob M. stage 4 prostate cancer
Rob M. stage 4 prostate cancer
Rob M. stage 4 prostate cancer
Rob M. stage 4 prostate cancer

This interview has been edited for clarity. This is not medical advice. Please consult with your healthcare provider to make treatment decisions.


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Symptoms: Burning sensation while urinating, erectile dysfunction

Treatments: Surgeries (radical prostatectomy, artificial urinary sphincter to address incontinence, penile prosthesis), radiation therapy (EBRT), hormone therapy (androgen deprivation therapy or ADT)
John B. stage 4A prostate cancer

John B., Prostate Cancer, Gleason 9, Stage 4A



Symptoms: Nocturia (frequent urination at night), weak stream of urine

Treatments: Surgery (prostatectomy), hormone therapy (androgen deprivation therapy), radiation


Tom H., Prostate Cancer, Stage 2



Symptoms: None

Treatment: Surgery (prostatectomy)
Eve G. feature profile

Eve G., Prostate Cancer, Gleason 9



Symptom: None; elevated PSA levels detected during annual physicals
Treatments: Surgeries (robot-assisted laparoscopic prostatectomy & bilateral orchiectomy), radiation, hormone therapy

Lonnie V., Prostate Cancer, Stage 4



Symptoms: Urination issues, general body pain, severe lower body pain

Treatments: Hormone therapy, targeted therapy (through clinical trial), radiation
Paul G. feature profile

Paul G., Prostate Cancer, Gleason 7



Symptom: None; elevated PSA levels
Treatments: Prostatectomy (surgery), radiation, hormone therapy
Tim J. feature profile

Tim J., Prostate Cancer, Stage 1



Symptom: None; elevated PSA levels
Treatments: Prostatectomy (surgery)

Mark K., Prostate Cancer, Stage 4



Symptom: Inability to walk



Treatments: Chemotherapy, monthly injection for lungs
Mical R. feature profile

Mical R., Prostate Cancer, Stage 2



Symptom: None; elevated PSA level detected at routine physical
Treatment: Radical prostatectomy (surgery)

Jeffrey P., Prostate Cancer, Gleason 7



Symptom: None; routine PSA test, then IsoPSA test
Treatment: Laparoscopic prostatectomy

Theo W., Prostate Cancer, Gleason 7



Symptom: None; elevated PSA level of 72
Treatments: Surgery, radiation
Dennis Golden

Dennis G., Prostate Cancer, Gleason 9 (Contained)



Symptoms: Urinating more frequently middle of night, slower urine flow
Treatments: Radical prostatectomy (surgery), salvage radiation, hormone therapy (Lupron)
Bruce

Bruce M., Prostate Cancer, Stage 4A, Gleason 8/9



Symptom: Urination changes
Treatments: Radical prostatectomy (surgery), salvage radiation, hormone therapy (Casodex & Lupron)

Al Roker, Prostate Cancer, Gleason 7+, Aggressive



Symptom: None; elevated PSA level caught at routine physical
Treatment: Radical prostatectomy (surgery)

Steve R., Prostate Cancer, Stage 4, Gleason 6



Symptom: Rising PSA level
Treatments: IMRT (radiation therapy), brachytherapy, surgery, and lutetium-177

Clarence S., Prostate Cancer, Low Gleason Score



Symptom: None; fluctuating PSA levels
Treatment: Radical prostatectomy (surgery)