Finding New Ways to Start a Family: Candace’s Life Beyond Stage 3C Cervical Cancer

Candace’s story is one of resilience, reflection, and redefining what family means. Diagnosed with stage 3 cervical cancer at just 25, while serving in the Air Force and navigating fertility treatments, her life took an unexpected turn. She had been managing polycystic ovary syndrome (PCOS) since she was 16, so symptoms like heavy bleeding and irregular periods were easy to dismiss. It wasn’t until an intrauterine insemination (IUI) procedure in 2022 that doctors noticed something amiss — her cervix appeared irritated and friable (overly sensitive and prone to irritation & bleeding). A biopsy post-dilation and curettage (D&C) confirmed the diagnosis.

Interviewed by: Nikki Murphy
Edited by: Chris Sanchez

Hearing the words, “You have cervical cancer,” was surreal for Candace. Still groggy from anesthesia, she laughed when the doctor said these words to her — an unexpected response fueled by shock and disbelief. But underneath that laughter was a whirlwind of emotions. The rapid progression from diagnosis to a radical hysterectomy left little time to process. Losing her fertility at such a young age was a profound grief, not just for the biological children she’d dreamed of but also for the part of her identity tied to motherhood.

Candace’s treatment journey for stage 3 cervical cancer was intense: multiple surgeries, chemotherapy, radiation (brachytherapy), and eventually immunotherapy. She went from balancing military duties post-chemo to confronting the harsh side effects that compounded over time, including nausea, fatigue, and hair loss.

Despite the physical toll of her stage 3c cervical cancer, Candace’s emotional and mental landscape was equally challenging. Cancer became an uninvited identity marker. Conversations often revolved around her illness rather than her passions or family. Determined to reclaim her narrative, she and her husband intentionally spoke openly about cancer, refusing to let it be the unspoken “C-word” in their lives.

Through all this, Candace’s hope remained anchored in her desire to have a family. Thanks to fertility preservation, she and her husband have two embryos frozen, with dreams of using a surrogate in the future. She also emphasizes the importance of fostering and adoption, showcasing how family can be beautifully diverse.

Candace’s support system, particularly within the Air Force, played a pivotal role. From understanding leadership to friends who became family, she felt embraced every step of the way. She advocates fiercely for seeking help, whether through therapy, friends, or acknowledging when it’s okay not to be okay.

Candace’s story isn’t defined by stage 3 cervical cancer. It’s shaped by courage, community, and the unwavering belief that life, even when altered, can still be meaningful and full. Watch her video to learn:

Why she insists that cancer doesn’t define her story.
Candace’s candid take on losing fertility at 25 but holding onto hopes of motherhood.
The surprising way Candace reacted upon hearing, “You have cancer.”
How the Air Force became Candace’s unexpected support system.

Candace’s Diagnosis Facts

Name: Candace C.
Age at Diagnosis:
- 25
Diagnosis:
- Small Cell Cervical Cancer
Staging:
- Stage 3C
Symptoms:
- Heavy uterine bleeding
- Irregular menstruation
- Cervix seemed irritated and friable
Treatments:
- Surgery: radical hysterectomy
- Radiotherapy: brachytherapy
- Chemotherapy
- Immunotherapy

This is not medical advice. Please consult with your healthcare provider to make informed treatment decisions.

This interview has been edited for clarity and length. The views and opinions expressed in this interview do not necessarily reflect those of The Patient Story. This content does not replace professional medical advice.

Thank you for sharing your story, Candace!