Nina, diagnosed with stage 4 metastatic breast cancer at 34, shares her experience of navigating the complexities of her illness and advocating for her health. She initially noticed a hardening under her left armpit. A year later, the lump grew and her breast showed signs of dimpling. A mammogram and ultrasound finally revealed an abnormal lump and a biopsy confirmed stage 3 breast cancer. Shortly after, scans showed the cancer had spread to her spine, escalating her diagnosis to stage 4.

Nina quickly shifted into a problem-solving mode, managing her treatment plan, scheduling appointments, and staying organized amidst the overwhelming process. She expressed how emotionally challenging it was to balance her feelings while supporting the emotions of those around her.

Her treatment plan included chemotherapy, followed by a lumpectomy, and radiation on both her breast and spine. She continues to undergo regular infusions and medications to keep the cancer at bay. While the chemotherapy caused a lot of side effects, including hair loss, neuropathy, mouth sores, fatigue, and brain fog, she found strength in adapting to these challenges. Despite needing to remain in treatment indefinitely, her current scans show no evidence of disease.

One of the most challenging aspects of her cancer experience was induced menopause, which affected her physically and emotionally, particularly the loss of her ability to carry children. The lifestyle changes brought about by cancer were also difficult for Nina. However, she found solace in documenting her experience online, helping others understand the realities of living with cancer, especially young women and women of color.

Sharing her story became a way to raise awareness and a form of therapy. Nina’s advice to others is to advocate for themselves and to practice radical acceptance of the life changes that cancer brings. She emphasizes the importance of self-love and reevaluating what truly matters during difficult times.