However, his recovery was not without challenges. Tom had undergone rigorous physical training prior to surgery, believing it would help him recover faster, but despite this preparation, recovery still proved difficult. He discusses the changes and challenges post-recovery, including diminished sexual function and initial incontinence. However, these side effects, part of his new normal, have not deterred him from living an active life. He relied on perseverance, maintaining mobility, and activity.

Tom’s mindset transformation, inspired by his friend’s advice and his own experiences as an Ironman triathlete, played a pivotal role in his recovery. The Ironman motto, “anything is possible,” encouraged him to set goals, like walking his daughter down the aisle and participating in another Ironman event, both of which he achieved.

Tom continued to exercise vigilance and undertake his proactive health practices after his successful treatment. For the first 5 years post-surgery, he had bi-annual PSA tests, transitioning to annual check-ups in the subsequent years. He emphasizes the significance of these tests in reducing cancer recurrence risks.

Tom has also turned to advocacy to help others avoid the isolation he felt during his journey. He joined and contributed to organizations like Zero Prostate Cancer and Mary Crowley Cancer Research, advocating for patient perspectives in treatment options.

Tom reflects on the importance of having a support system, acknowledging the mistake of isolating himself initially. He emphasizes the necessity of open conversations about cancer, advocating for a community and shared experiences. Furthermore, he shares that conquering fears can reveal hidden strength. His journey has enabled him to help others through advocacy and support, fulfilling his life’s purpose.