Rach’s Stage 2 IDC Triple-Positive Breast Cancer Story

Rach shares her stage 2 triple-positive breast cancer story and how she got through treatment: chemotherapy, hormone therapy, targeted therapy, double mastectomy, and reconstruction surgery.

In her story, Rach also highlights the process of going through fertility preservation, the importance of self-advocacy for patients, and dealing with financial toxicity in paying for treatment. She gives some guidance on how to navigate the impact of a cancer diagnosis on relationships.

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This interview has been edited for clarity. This is not medical advice. Please consult with your healthcare provider for treatment decisions.

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The only time I would have it was when I would go see my doctor every year for my annual exam. As I brushed my right breast, I was like, “Okay, I’m kind of confused because I don’t know if it always felt this way, or it actually feels bigger.”

When I was explaining this to my husband, I seriously was about to faint. Part of me felt like something was wrong.

Of course, by the time we got back from our honeymoon, I forgot about it. The truth is I didn’t think anything could really be wrong with me.

Describe your diagnosis process (medical visits, tests, etc.)

The beginning of January, I actually had my physical exam that I was scheduled to have with my primary doctor. During my time there, she asked me when she was doing the breast exam, “Did that feel different?”

I was like, “Actually, I was hoping you can tell me. Because I can’t tell. Maybe? But I’m not sure.”

At that time, she said it does feel different. “It feels like you have 3 masses in there, but it could be fibroadenoma.”

She’s said, “You’re 27. At that age, women start to develop fibroadenoma. But just to be sure this is fibroadenoma, let me just schedule you a breast ultrasound.” She scheduled that immediately.

Describe the breast ultrasound

I did the whole breast ultrasound. I thought it was weird because the technician would continuously come back into the room and then tell me she needed more images.

Each time she thought she was done, she comes back saying, “Oh, we need more.” This literally took the whole day.

As I was getting dressed, they told me, “Oh wait, don’t dress yet. We need some more images.”

It just so happened I had my first-ever mammogram, and I was so confused.

Biopsy confirms cancer

As soon as I got home from the hospital, I got a call from my primary doctor. The next thing I know, I got my biopsy scheduled.

When I finished it, there was a patient navigator in there with me. My primary physician actually called me during her vacation, and she’s like, “I’m sorry I have to call you.”

She pretty much confirmed that I had 4 masses that were malignant, basically 4 cancerous tumors, and confirmed with me that I have breast cancer.

Luckily, for some reason deep down inside of me, I also felt like I should work from home that day, and I’m very glad I did.

Hearing you have cancer while you’re in the middle of working, you’re just like, ‘Wait, I just finished one of the most important meetings, and now I’m being told I have cancer? This is bizarre.’

But at the same time, it didn’t register. I heard her say I have cancer, and I immediately called my husband, my family, or anyone I was close to to tell them what the results were.

As I was saying it, it just didn’t feel real. As if it had to belong to someone else, not me.

Ultimately, that’s what led to my official cancer diagnosis. It was January 25th.

How did you process the diagnosis?

That’s the weird part. You know how your mind thinks there’s something wrong, but maybe not? I’m not quite sure exactly how to process what I was thinking.

You hear the word “cancer,” and you know it’s bad. You see it on TV, and you always feel bad whenever you hear that anyone has to go through cancer.

But you never ever think it actually will affect you.

It’s a weird feeling thinking, “Maybe there’s something wrong.” But at the same time, I kept telling myself, “There’s no way. This is a rare thing.”

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How did you tell your loved ones the news?

I immediately called my husband and said, “Hey, I just got the results.”

He’s like, “All right.” I think he knew. I think he probably could tell by my tone, my voice. I’m not sure, but he knew. He was like, “I’m heading home now.”

Did you get a second opinion?

Yes. I wanted to take advantage of all the great hospitals that I live by, so I pretty much had 4 second opinions. I wanted to make sure, because I came from a family who has worked in the medical field.

I also understand the importance of being in the right care, and that also has to mean who I feel the most comfortable with. It’s a chemistry kind of thing.

If you have a good vibe about your doctor, I honestly believe it’s not going to be an easy process, but it’d be easier. I wanted to make sure that I found the right one for me.

How did you decide where to get treatment?

With my patient navigator, it was all regarding that one hospital. I was pretty vocal with every doctor I met at that first hospital.

I’m like, “I’m going to go seek a second opinion.” They also agreed. They were like, “You know, that’s good.”

Then I also worked with that hospital to make sure to start releasing some of the test results to all these different hospitals that I wanted to get a second opinion on.

I also asked a couple family members who are doctors about who they think would be best and to give recommendations.

My husband and I did a little bit of our own research. Some of our other family members who wanted to help us out in a way did their own research.

Ultimately, I came to a decision with which doctors I wanted to see in each hospital. I met with the main doctor I wanted to see and their team.

One thing I know is you may have a primary attending that will be your doctor. They’ll handle your standard of care.

But they always have a team. You have to make sure you feel comfortable with that team, too.

They’re the ones who are going to be checking up on you more often than the attending physician. I also wanted to hear what their treatment plan was.

What’s crazy was every hospital was slightly different, and I was glad I was able to see that. For me, it’s very important to go with a treatment plan that I feel most comfortable with and with the best outcome.

Neoadjuvant chemotherapy

My treatment plan was neoadjuvant chemotherapy. It is basically having chemotherapy prior to surgery.

Every doctor had a different opinion, but I went with a doctor who preferred neoadjuvant chemotherapy because they said that shows evidence and proof that the treatment is working.

If they’re seeing the tumor shrink, then they know whatever they’re doing is killing the cancer cells. They said in their eyes, if they remove the tumor first and then get treated, they are not sure if they’re giving me the right regimen. They’re kind of just killing it blindsided.

She had me meet patients who naturally had a baby without going through any IVF process, but also had me meet some of her patients who went through the fertility preservation.

She said, “I want you to know you have options, and I will support whatever decision you make.”

There’s a fertility specialist that deals with cancer patients, and she said, “I’m going to talk to him and make sure every medication that he is providing you is something I feel comfortable with. No matter what happens, my team is ready to manage whatever it is.”

Describe the IVF process

I think I was in what they call survival mode. I was like, “Okay, I just need to figure out what the next steps are.” I obviously knew cancer is bad, and it came to me that I have cancer. I was like, “You know what, I’m ready to fight this.”

I was like in more survival/fighter mode, but it was exhausting because I had a very intense day job. It was demanding just due to the nature of the work I do, so trying to juggle that and then going to doctor’s appointments — it’s mentally exhausting.

By the end of the day, you just literally don’t want to do anything.

There were times, though, I was really, really scared because you hear those things about cancer. Ultimately, I just wasn’t sure what the outcome would be.

I feel comfortable with the team I’ve selected, but I also know there’s only so much that could be done. I just really, really hoped that the route I chose was the best route to take.

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What was the next step after fertility preservation?

I did the neoadjuvant chemotherapy. At the same time, they started targeted therapy and part of my hormone therapy.

My regimen is TCHP, which included Herceptin, the targeted therapy. For my hormone therapy, they had me already started on the Zoladex shots.

They just wanted to make sure they were protecting my ovaries and said it was important for me to basically have a baby afterwards.

They wanted to suppress any hormones in my body. I went through 6 rounds of it. It definitely wasn’t easy.

Chemotherapy and Side Effects

Describe the chemotherapy

It was 6 rounds.

There were times where I couldn’t even do my next round of chemo because my blood counts were so low, and it had to be rescheduled.

That was very disappointing. I remember the first time that happened because I had this countdown. I’m like, “Okay, just finish round 1 or round 2, which means by the time I’m done with everything, I’ll be done on this day.”

When you can’t go in for your treatment, it just sucks because then you’re like, “Ugh, then that means my date gets pushed back when I’ll be done.”

There is a good thing, though. I say good thing because you always have to find silver linings even in the toughest times. The day before you go on your next round is when you feel your best.

You’re like, “Oh, my God, I feel like me. I have a little bit of energy. Oh, my gosh, I can actually drink water because it doesn’t taste disgusting.”

Those were my favorite days, and I always try to think, “Oh, what do I want to do because I feel well?” I make those days very special for me.

It’s crazy because I think I took for granted what it felt like to be me.

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I did blog still when I was diagnosed. It was kind of my saving grace, if you call it, because during chemo you feel so sick, you feel so helpless, and it’s so hard to describe because it’s like an illness I’ve never felt before.

It wasn’t the cancer that made me sick. It was literally the treatments. 

There are times where I felt like, “I don’t know if I could do this anymore.” I can see why it could be so easy to give up because there are times when you’re waking up, you don’t know how you’re gonna feel. You just don’t know how your body’s going to react.

No matter what meds the doctor prescribed you to alleviate the side effects, it’s still there, and you still feel like crap.

That made it harder to even want to eat or talk, because it was painful. They did provide me this magic mouthwash, which kind of temporarily numbs the inside of your mouth just to make things a little bit more tolerable.

It comes in stages, every side effect. Sometimes, some weeks or some rounds, you’ll get a lot of them all at once. Then another side effect comes in.

You pretty much have your side effects up until a day or 2 before your next round, and that’s when you seriously just feel your best.

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What helped with the side effects?

I pretty much just had to suck it up; I don’t know if there’s anything really you could do. They provided me Zofran and other anti-nausea meds. I tried to get on it before my next dose is due so there’s no gap, but it’s still there.

They always tell me, “Oh, whatever you do, don’t throw up. We want you to just keep it all in.” There were times where I was like, “I am so sick to my stomach I have to let it out.”

It’s so easy to want to give up because you just feel awful. There were times where I had my dark moments, and I thought, ‘I don’t know if I want to go through this anymore. I really don’t.’

If I came up with new side effects, I definitely let my team know. My husband is definitely frequently at the pharmacy, just picking up meds.

We actually had a good relationship with the pharmacist. I guess it’s a good or bad thing, right? You don’t want to always be there, but it’s kind of good.

Without them knowing fully what’s happening to me, they already knew, and they were very sweet about it. They tried to give tips and advice, which was really, really sweet of them.

What helped me was that I realized I’m young, and I still have a life to live.

Overall, I love my life, but I also know I have a life that I’m building with my husband, who has been the sweetest thing and the greatest blessing ever.

I want to fight for him; I want to be there with him. I want to have that family and live the dreams that we wanted to do.

We had a bucket list of things we wanted to do as newlyweds, and I felt bad because we couldn’t do them.

We literally had to put the newlywed life on hold. We didn’t experience that right after we got married, because I was diagnosed.

That gave me a little bit of a motivation. As far as handling it, I just try to be good with taking all these meds, but I mean I just really had to suck it up.

Sometimes getting a little fresh air helps, but sometimes it’s getting that push to get that fresh air.

My blog was one of the things that got me to go outside. My husband’s like, “Get ready, and even if we shoot for 10 minutes, then 10 minutes it is. We don’t have to do a full-on shoot.”

That 10 minutes of outside really help just for a little bit. It gave me that little push I needed, and it helped me feel better.

Blood pressure problems during chemo

One thing that did happen during chemo was my blood pressure. I’ve always had normal blood pressure, but during the second round, my blood pressure was really, really high — close to the 200s over 110.

It was just ridiculously high, to the point where they were a little scared because they weren’t sure if that was the Herceptin or if it was my heart working too hard.

Chemo is basically toxins in your body, so your heart probably is working a little extra hard. Also, I know heart disease and hypertension runs in my family.

During that time, it was also difficult to find the right blood pressure meds because they had to make sure whatever meds they were giving me also went well with chemo.

They found a couple of blood pressure meds that would pair well with chemo, but they didn’t work – they didn’t do anything – my blood pressure didn’t lower.

Eventually, we found a drug that worked. I actually had to go see a cardiologist who also dealt with cancer patients. It was really nice that they had something a little specialized. We did a little trial and error. That kind of helped stabilize my blood pressure.

When I was done with chemo, regarding Herceptin, I think I reacted to that very well. It was one of those things where it was just like another drug to take.

It’s a little bit hard. I didn’t even realize that you could still experience side effects when you’re done with chemo.

I had like a 10-year treatment plan overall. No matter what drug you take, you will experience side effects. Sometimes the side effects are similar to what you took from chemo, or sometimes the side effects from chemo just wait until after you’re done.

These are considered long-term side effects. Usually, doctors don’t know when that will ever go away. It’s one of those things that you just kind of have to work through regarding the whole survivorship.

Targeted Therapy

Describe your targeted therapy

One of my targeted therapies was Herceptin, and that’s why my chemo regimen was TCHP.

Whose decision was it to start targeted therapy?

It was the doctors, and I think it’s pretty common to have Herceptin with your chemo cocktail.

Describe the targeted therapy regimen

It was hard in the beginning because it was mixed in with all the other chemo drugs.

One of the things they wanted to look out for was that it could weaken your heart, so that was one of the side effects. They’ve been proactive with checking my heart.

Double Mastectomy Surgery

Describe the preparation before the double mastectomy

It’s kind of 2 parts. With my surgery, they wanted to make sure the lymph nodes are not affected. A week before my double mastectomy, they took out 6 sentinel lymph nodes — I can’t remember, 6 or 9 — and they did a biopsy on that.

If you’re not aware of it, if you tested positive for cancer on the sentinel lymph node, then chances are that other lymph nodes are affected. I was fortunate that those tested negative after chemo.

Also, that gave them a better game plan on how my surgery would be, because ideally I wanted a double mastectomy or bilateral mastectomy with immediate reconstruction.

But I was told, “If your lymph nodes are affected, then you’re going to need radiation, and we don’t recommend doing immediate reconstruction.”

It was nice that my lymph nodes came out clean.

A week later I had the double mastectomy scheduled, but it wasn’t guaranteed. It kind of depends on what they see while I’m under and if they think immediate reconstruction is a possibility.

If not, then I had to go through the expander route and then do reconstruction later down the road.

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Describe the surgery

Fortunately, I was able to do a double mastectomy with immediate reconstruction. Overall, that surgery took 9 hours. My whole family was there, and it was a very long day for them.

What I didn’t realize was the recovery aspect of it and how much pain I would be in. You really lose your ability in your upper half.

They put on so much pain meds that I didn’t realize how much pain I was until they had to wean me off to a lower dose of pain meds.

Recovering from the mastectomy

That’s when you start feeling everything. It hurt so bad. I remember I had to go to the bathroom so badly, but I couldn’t even walk. I had 3 nurses helping me.

You’re also a little embarrassed because people had to help you use the bathroom. I’m so used to doing things on my own and these things that came so naturally to me, but now I required assistance to even go to the bathroom or have someone to lift me up.

I also got very nauseous from anesthesia.

It didn’t help that I was throwing up nonstop, which made the pain on my chest much worse.

I would say that was quite the experience. I’ve never felt that kind of pain before because before that, I’ve had very minor surgery, very easy procedures.

Going through such a major surgery was definitely a shocker. I didn’t realize how much I relied on other people to just do my day-to-day stuff. It was frustrating because I couldn’t just go to the bathroom.

I literally had to ask someone to help me with the shower and help me dress. Then when I had to come home from it, it was just annoying to have these drains on the side.

Then, basically being told, “Oh, you have to be pretty much bedridden the entire time.” That also really sucked because I couldn’t do much. Definitely an experience I do not recommend.

Deciding between a lumpectomy and a double mastectomy

There’s 2 things that I had to consider. One was symmetry. The mass on my right side, considering I had 4 tumors, literally took out a large quadrant of my breast.

They said, “We can’t really pump you up because you’re not large chested.” To me, I felt like if they’re already taking out that much, they might as well take out the whole thing.

Then I thought about my chances of getting breast cancer on the left side because I have it on the right.

They told me, “Well, you have a higher chance. Of course, these numbers are still low, but you have a higher chance of getting it on the left if you had it on the right.”

In my mind, I’m thinking, ‘If I’m going through cancer, I’m going to go all out to fight this. I hope and I pray to God that I don’t have to go through this again.’

That was my mindset, and I was like, “You know what? Just get rid of them, both sides.”

Describe your experience with the reconstruction surgery

I had that at the same time as my mastectomy. I chose implants. Before the surgery, I was not aware of how many options you can have.

Ultimately, I trusted my plastic surgeon to choose the implants that would look best on my body and will be great long-term. I also wanted one that was as close as possible to my original breast size.

I got comfortable in my own skin, so I just didn’t care to have large breasts.

I’m a fashion blogger and I already had outfits in mind of what I’d like to wear. I got accustomed to what clothes would look good on me.

It didn’t feel natural to me, especially when you’ve lost all feeling to your chest. When they remove your breast tissues, you lose all the nerves, too, so you lose feeling.

You don’t even have this connection for it to feel like your own body. That itself is a whole ‘nother journey.

Is there anything you did to help you through this process?

I had that surgery with the sentinel lymph node. As far as any preparation, really, no. I just made sure I had all the stuff I needed, so when I come home, I was equipped with it.

I was fortunate that I had a coworker who had a mastectomy in the past, who told me, “You would want these wedge pillow because it helps you sit up.”

I had to make sure I got myself the right pajamas so that I can fit in it. I knew I was going to be swollen in the chest, but I also know it was going to be hard for me to put clothes on.

I made sure it was button pajamas, something that can manage my hot flashes, because they were coming on really strong.

I also wanted to make sure I had food. I know my husband didn’t cook. I was the cook in the family, so I had to make sure there were things prepped.

I made sure we had family members to help out since I couldn’t really do much. I was pretty much told I’d have to be in bed the entire time.

I had to make sure I had family members home with me to be able to take me to the bathroom, feed me, change me. There was that kind of coordination prior to surgery.

Quality of Life

Were there any surprises during your treatment process?

The whole surprise is the whole body change. You don’t realize how much it affects your body physically and then how your body changes. It changes you mentally.

I thought in my mind, “You go through chemo, and then you’re done.” No, because then you still have all these other treatments that can change you day to day. There’s a whole new world you go into now.

People assume you are done with everything; you’re cured. There’s no such thing as the word ‘cured,’ which is why there’s people advocating for more cancer research.

I didn’t realize how deadly it is for young women with breast cancer, especially under the age of 40. It’s so underrepresented.

Someone who is 60 and someone who is 27 may get the same treatment plan, but your bodies are in different stages. Your lives are in different stages. The treatment changes all of that.

You see your friends and family able to move on and do things that you aspired to do, but you can’t. I think that’s really hard.

Were you surprised by your hair loss?

I was surprised how quickly it fell off, but I knew eventually it would. I thought I would be really sad at that point when I lost it, but it was more annoying because you lose so many chunks of hair.

You leave trails everywhere, and it was just annoying. No matter where I go, I’m just constantly shedding to the point where I told my husband, “Just shave it off. I can’t deal with this trail.”

I didn’t realize how much I missed it. That part was hard because I’ve grown to be very, very attached to the hair growth, constantly checking to see the progress, and I had pictured the length my hair would be in a certain amount of time.

It didn’t help with the fact that I already didn’t feel feminine. I’m not saying hair is everything, but hair was part of my identity and always has been, so it took me a long time to even get a haircut when I needed it.

My hair person totally understood what I was going through, and she was like, “Let me help you. If along the way you don’t like it, then we’ll stop.”

Something about the way she was talking, I knew she would take care of me. She did a good job making me feel a little bit more feminine.

Long story short, I didn’t feel the effect of the loss of hair until after everything.

What got you through the tough times?

Actually accepting death because then I learned to appreciate every single day.

Were there any moments you had to advocate for yourself?

The only time I had to advocate for myself is when I was trying to educate people in the non-cancer world to understand that I still have struggles and that I get sad.

I guess the misconception is when you don’t look sick, people don’t think you’re sick.

But on their end, my husband wanted to do everything he could for me; he wants the whole cancer thing to go away, to be cured. They have that feeling of helplessness.

I always tell people they’re in cancer, too, and they see the struggle firsthand. But what sucks is that they’re helpless during the entire time. It affects them physically and mentally as well.

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How did cancer affect your relationship with your husband?

It definitely solidified our relationship. I knew who I was marrying would be the greatest person ever, but this definitely showed the kind of person he is.

During tough times, people’s real personality and how they manage challenges come through. I would say cancer would have been much harder if I didn’t have him.

I just feel bad that he had to go through this. I know how much it hurts him to see me hurt, but if anything, it has brought us closer and it actually helped us really understand marriage.

It taught us how to communicate and how to advocate, when to step back a little, and really learn to be there for each other.

Any advice for cancer patients on how to deal with a spouse during treatment?

If you’re the cancer patient, check to see how your spouse is doing. They’re in it. They struggle with cancer just as much, and they need all the help they can get. I think people don’t realize it.

They’re in it, and they feel it, just in a whole different way. It’s always nice to check to see where they are and if there’s anything you can do for them.

I know it affected my husband a lot mentally. Even after chemo, he had panic attacks just because the whole thing is very hard.

They also need to seek that support. Just be there for them or have them see someone, too.

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How did you deal with the financial aspects of treatment?

I grew up with the mindset of “hope for the best, plan for the worst,” so I actually have always been a big saver. It did financially impact us.

It’s always good to have fun with your money, but also learn to save and learn to strategize and plan out your finances. When it comes to times like health, you don’t want to take a step back on it.

I want to do everything I can for my own health or even my husband’s health or anyone in my family, and I don’t want money to be the reason to hold me back.

We were fortunate that my husband and I were big savers. What affected us the most is, I think a year after my diagnosis, it affected my husband to the point that he had a mental breakdown and had to quit his job.

Then there was a point where I quit my job, so there was a point where both of us were not working. It wasn’t easy. You just kind of have to thrive and use your best judgment.

For me, it was like, “Okay, it sucks that we may not having income coming in right now, but I think of the short-term sacrifice for the long-term benefit.”

Was there anything you wish you had known?

Honestly, no. The reason why is I think I was very thorough, and I treated every second opinion with every hospital as an interview.

I’m also very analytical and very process driven. I kind of tested each doctor. At the end of it, they ask, “Do you have any more questions?”

There’s some things that I would purposefully leave behind to see how quickly they would get back to me, or how they reacted to certain questions or when the patient responds to them.

That’s just my own personality. It helps me figure out who can I rely on when I need them on the spot. I felt like my life was on the line, and I wanted to make sure that this physician and her team were ready to take care of me.

I would like to share this with people: When you get a hospital bill, they don’t always go through insurance. My husband is an engineer, and I’ve done actuarial science.

We see numbers, and when we see it’s off, we see it very quickly. When we get a bill, we’re like, “Wait.” We notice immediately.

How did 3 out of the 4 doctor visits go through the insurance? Why am I paying the hospital when I really should be paying zero because I have already met my out-of-pocket deductible?

Those are the things I want to tell people. Just pay attention to your bill. Don’t assume you have to pay for everything.

Make sure you really look it out and vet it out. Then understand why you are being charged for this, because chances are there are mistakes. You don’t want to pay more than you have to.

I don’t fit in with other people my age because people are in different parts of their life now, while I had to put my life on hold to make sure I could live it.

The hard part is really, really, really trying to love this body, and it gets frustrating.

Then you have all the weight gain, and you still have these doctors visits in between. Everything just becomes overwhelming; your anxiety is just off the roof, and you’re having panic attacks.

I was just sharing with my onco-psychologist in my last visit that it took me up until recently to really feel like myself in a whole new way.

I really, really just love where I am and just feel very confident in who I am as a person.

Processing the cancer experience

It does affect a little bit of your quality of life, especially with the joint pains. I think the one that affected me the most is my wrist. I didn’t even realize how often I use my wrist.

I remember when I still had my day job, I was typing. Then I just couldn’t.

It was hard. I was holding a stack of binders, then I had to walk to my desk, and it just dropped because I just didn’t have the strength or my wrist was hurting.

Then you also experience what they call chemo brain, where things are just a little foggy and you can’t remember. Those are things that you can’t help. It gets very frustrating.

Certain things day to day used to come so naturally, and now I just blank out.

I remember I had to do this one process at work. Before cancer, I’m on it; I know it. I looked at the computer screen, and I was like, “I know how to do this, but I just can’t recall what to do.”

That was really sad because I obviously had to work at a different pace than what I was.

People don’t realize those are the things that you go through when you go through cancer treatment; your brain doesn’t fully function the same way, no matter how hard you want to try to get it there.

When I was back to work, I barely had hair, but overall, people said I look well.

When I’m struggling, no one gets why I am moving slower or why I can’t just do the work, meet those timelines, or get certain things to them right on the spot. 

It takes quite a bit of time. That’s definitely a hard one. It’s a big adjustment to make. To this day, I still experience chemo brain, but I think I’ve learned to navigate it.

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Was anyone crucial to your cancer experience?

I honestly am so grateful for that role of patient navigator, because they have made the whole process easier.

I didn’t know what her role was at that time. During my biopsy, she was sweet and made sure I was okay.

When I was done and getting dressed, she came over to me and said, “I want you to know just because you have a biopsy doesn’t mean you have cancer.”

I was like, “Okay.” She hands me a handbook. “You should read this from the American Cancer Society.”

I was like, “Wait what? This is so confusing. She’s telling me I probably don’t have cancer, but read a book about having cancer?”

My primary care doctor was naming all these doctors I should start seeing. I thought I had everything written down — I was trying to be diligent — but I didn’t.

10 minutes later I got off the phone, and that same patient navigator called me and said, “Hey, Rach, I want to let you know I just heard the news.”

Then she lists all these doctors. It was like, “Oh my gosh, those are exactly who I’m supposed to call.”

She’s like, ‘Don’t worry, I already have them scheduled for you. Do you have a pen and paper?’

She literally did everything for me.

She said, “I just wanted you to know that’s my role. I am here for you. I will advocate for you, and if some of the schedules don’t work out for you, you have to let me know. I will make everything possible to make it work for you.”

To this day, I am still so grateful for her. I don’t know how I would’ve handled trying to figure out how to schedule appointments and making sure they were all aligned properly if it wasn’t for her.

Last message to other patients

Know that it’s a process and you’re going to have hard days. It’s going to be hard, but know that you’ve got to listen to your body and let it recover.

It’s going to take time, and it took me 3 years to get to where I am, and I still struggle day to day. But just know that there are good things that happen along the way.

As crappy as cancer is, there are good things that happen. I found friendships that I never ever thought I would ever have come across if it wasn’t for cancer, or really found the people that really care about me and are really there for me.

So there are silver linings, and I would say even in your darkest moments, find them.

Even if it’s a stranger that bought you a cup of coffee or you find a penny on the floor, those silver linings mean something.

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